Ashamed of sex with a committed man!
1. About six months ago, I began a sexual relationship with a man who told me he was unhappy with his girlfriend of four years and decided to leave her. They had a very serious and committed relationship. He soon realized that he had made a mistake and returned to being with her. So of course we stopped seeing each other out of respect for her and did not talk either. A few weeks after his return, he called me and from the past few months we have not had an innocent phone based friendship that his girl does not know about. I don't know why I can't just stop talking with him! I feel so bad, but it gets worse. Last night I was talking to him and he said he missed me and wanted to see me, so I met up with him and we had sex. I knew it was wrong, but did not feel bad at the time. Now today I feel beyond horrible for my actions and I even have a feeling that she knows. I have never met her, but I have totally betrayed another woman and that is against all of my morals. Even if she doesn't know and never finds out, the guilt that I feel will eat me up. I know that I need to stop this right here and now, but knowing and doing is different. I am not in love with him and I know I will never be with him but I have in fact become very attached to this man, my friend. I will miss our conversations and relationship so much. I do know the difference between right and wrong. But I do not know how to move on and do the RIGHT thing. If their relationship ends because of this I will never forgive myself! Guide me.
Where is my life partner?
1. I am an NRI living in Europe. I went six times to Mumbai and Delhi to look for a life-partner but it seems that girls there already have boyfriends and those who don't have are not willing to marry an NRI. I am kind-hearted, well mannered, good-looking, educated, settled but yet what do I do wrong that I am unable to find a life partner?
Reply From Dr. Prem Lata Chawla: It seems Indian girls have matured, become wiser, self-sufficient and self-supporting as they are now taking decisions for themselves. Still there are many Indian parents looking for NRI grooms. You only have to advertise in newspapers or put your bio-data on the Internet. India lives beyond Delhi and Mumbai as well.
Have I become impotent?
2. I am 29-years-old and my problem is that I've been masturbating since I was 13 and as I was young, I did not take it as part of nature and now I do not enjoy it anymore. My family is trying to get me married. Please advice me how can this problem be solved?
Reply From Dr. Prem Lata Chawla: Masturbation in itself does not lead to impotency, premature ejaculation or change in size of penis. You should see a doctor for the proper diagnosis of the cause of the impotency and its management.