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Has your relationship turned toxic?

india Updated: May 02, 2012 11:50 IST

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Is your relationship letting you down, but you’re still dwelling on a ‘wonderful past’ hoping that things can be worked out? This quiz can help you dump the rose-coloured glasses, as it tells you if it’s worth investing in your relationship, or if you have already reached the end of your rope. For each question, out of the three options given, pick up one option that best describes your feelings, and read the box on the right to find out what your scores say.

1. When you see other couples:
A. You feel envious and wonder why are you so unlucky
B. You feel grateful for what you have
C. You get a feeling that on the whole you don’t have a raw deal

2. Being in this relationship has made you:
A. Plan and pursue goals close to your heart
B. Give up many aspirations
C. Drop down some of the things you wanted

3. If you get a magical power you would:
A. Run back in time and refrain yourself from getting into this relationship
B. Change some traits and habits of your partner
C. Turn invisible and have some fun with your partner

4. Your partner always seems to tell you:
A. You are special, talented and unique
B. You are very helpful
C. You have many flaws

5. You have a humiliating experience and:
A. You are desperate to
confide in your partner
B. You feel strong enough to deal with it on your own
C. You think of calling up a friend

6. You win a free holiday and:
A. Think who would be the best person to take along
B. Can’t wait to tell your partner
C. Feel as if nothing has happened

7. Your sexual fantasies:
A. Revolve around this new person whom you met sometime back
B. Often bring up the image of your partner
C. Weave casual sexual encounters

8. You need help for a trivial thing and get a sense that:
A. Your partner will crack a joke
B. Will try to help you out
C. Or would ask you when would you grow up

9.Your partner wants you to make a compromise and:
A. You feel pressurised and unpleasant
B. Take it with a pinch of salt recalling last time he/she gave in to your demand
C. Make a note silently in your existing list of sacrifices

10. You looked at this quiz and thought:
A. I ought to answer it
B. Let me see how I fare
C. Another crazy shrink stuff but seems good fun

By Pulkit Sharma,
clinical psychologist, VIMHANS

Scoring Key:

1. A=3, B=1, C=2
2. A=1, B=3, C=2
3. A=3, B=2, C=1
4. A=1, B=2, C=3
5. A=1, B=2, C=3
6. A=2, B=1, C=3
7. A=3, B=1, C=2
8. A=2, B=1, C=3
9. A=2, B=1, C=3
10. A=3, B=2, C=1

What your scores say:

10: You and your partner share a very good reciprocal relationship which allows both of you to
pursue independent goals and yet be together.

11-20: There is some trouble and you need to reflect where things are going wrong. An open
discussion with your
partner may help.

21-30: You are in a bad and frustrating relationship. Sort things out, terminate relationship or else you may soon need a shot of antidepressants.