Pick up the first chopstick with the middle finger and thumb:
Have the broad end of the chopstick lay on the part where your thumb and index finger connect. Try holding it the way you hold a pen to write. It might rest on your ring finger or your middle finger, held in place by your index finger. Place the chopstick then lift your index finger so it can hold the second chopstick.
Grip the second chopstick with your index finger:
Place your thumb over the second chopstick. Adjust your grip to a more comfortable position. Make sure the narrow tips of the chopsticks are even with each other to help prevent them from crossing or being unable to “pinch” the food..
Hold it steady:
This chopstick should not move when you attempt to pick up food. Alternatively, hold the first chopstick steady and move the second chopstick by moving the tip of your index finger up and down while the thumb remains relatively steady. The top chopstick remains pressed to the index finger from the tip through the first joint. The movement comes from flexing the joint closest to the knuckle. Straightening your index finger opens the chopsticks and bending it closes them, with perhaps a slight flexing of the thumb to keep the chopsticks lined up with each other.
Practice opening and closing the chopsticks: Make sure the broad ends of the chopsticks do not make an “X” as this will make it difficult to pick up food. Pick up food at a good angle (try roughly 45 degrees from the plate); slightly lift it up: If it feels unstable, put it down and try again.