'I fear my girl will be pregnant'
1. One night I had safe sex with my girlfriend and ejaculated inside the condom. And then the very next day, I had sex again and I ejaculated in the condom. The gap between two acts was 24 hours but after the second time when we had sex, I fear that the condom could have split, as it was slightly wet. It could have been just body juices but I do not know. My girlfriend was not worried about it and decided not to take a morning after pill. I still have a fear that she could become pregnant. Is it possible that new sperm had been produced within that short interval? Please explain.
Unable to reach climax
2. Before marriage, I used to masturbate a lot and reached orgasm every time. Now that I am married, I have a very high sex drive but I don't ejaculate, no matter how much I try. The only solution for me is masturbation. Please help me out.
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'I don't want husband to touch me'
1. I have been married for about five years now and have a wonderful two-year-old son but I am not happy with my husband. I don't want to have sex with him or even want him to touch me. It's piercing for me! Don't get me wrong. I think I am not in love with him anymore. I want to take divorce but I don't want to be the bad person in the whole situation. Moreover, I don't want to hurt him. He was in a real bad relationship before and this concerns me. I don't want him to hurt himself. We have had discussions about divorce and he warned me that he'd take our son if it happens. I want to be happy but at the same time don't want to hurt him. Please help!
Reply From Dr. Prem Lata Chawla: You do certainly not want a divorce. What you are looking for is creative and emotional fulfillment and some accomplishment, which provide capacity to love. You could be passing through a phase of Depression. You should see a Psychiatrist and get yourself assessed for Depression and get it treated by medication and counseling. Depression is easy to treat with a few weeks of medication and counseling. You must go for counseling for knowing yourself better. Meanwhile find a hobby, which provides opportunity for social interaction. Be less dependent on your husband for all your emotional needs. Look for strength from within yourself. With a bit of effort you can preserve this marriage not just for your son but also for all three of you. Happiness of this family is in your hand.
Crazy about an older woman
2. I am 20-years-old, in love with an elder woman. The lady I love is 35. My best friend came to know about it last week and now he is against our relationship. He says 'the age factor is unbearable'. I am doing my 1st year of College. Although my friend is very close and will not leak this information to anyone else, I am worried how society will perceive it. I have always hated my girl mates in school, because they weren't mature enough. I told my friend that 'I love this elder lady's maturity'. But he isn't willing to listen to anything. I am ashamed of my friend's reaction. Is this relationship going to work out? Please help out.
Reply From Dr. Prem Lata Chawla: At your tender age of 20 you seem to be exceptionally intelligent to have made the observation that girls your age are rather immature. But there is no law or strict social custom that forces you to fall in love with one or more of them. Just to be in relationship you do not have to choose a wrong person. At this time of life you should make friends, learn about people and understand more about life. You need not be afraid of this friend for confiding your secret even if he is in the habit of telling tales. He would only make a fool of himself talking about your fascination with this 35-year-old woman.