Most of us are in search of peace and happiness; but do we take the right steps? True, everyone has his own definition of peace. It could be an undisturbed nap or a good reading on a lazy afternoon or maybe meeting a friend after ages or even a good workout.
And yet, at the end of the day, one may be missing calmness of mind. With so many things going wrong, with chaos all around us, how do we achieve and maintain a calm?
The way is to let go of two things — anger and love for power. Anger and peace can’t go together and one can have only one at a time. We must train our mind and make it patient.
The Buddha said, “Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burnt."
We need to understand that all of us are susceptible to making mistakes. All of us have a notion of right and wrong that we strongly believe in. And while my thoughts may not match with yours, they may not be necessarily wrong. Everyone has a different way of thinking, acting and being which is what differentiates us from robots. Can you imagine a planet where everyone would think and behave in the same manner? How would then new ideas emerge? How would there be any creativity or innovation?
And we need to let go of our love for power too. For, we may be able to control machines at our command, but controlling people is not possible. And the only minds we may be able to control would be empty minds without a thought of their own. What kind of power is that? As Gerald Jampolsky said, “Peace of mind comes from not wanting to change others.”
So, if you learn to accept others the way they are, then you’ll find yourself at peace. And you’ll find yourself truly happy too.