It’s the new-age arranged marriage, and Facebook may well make or break the deal. As prospective brides and grooms savvy up, it’s not just about being a ‘good cook’ or having a ‘handsome pay package’ — chances are your Facebook profile is also being scrutinised by the ‘other side’ to know you better.
"Whenever a guy or his family gets in touch with my family, one of the first things he does is add me on Facebook. There have been times that everything seemed to be going well, until the guy would chance upon a picture of me partying or something, and get thrown off! It sounds so regressive, but it still happens," says HR consultant Prerna Sharma (name changed), 27.
Girls’ families aren’t lagging behind in the matrimonial spy game. “After things got serious between me and this guy, my mother asked my friends to add him on Facebook to check if he has put up pictures of himself smoking or taking drugs. She feels it shows the true face of a person,” says Umang Gupta, 23.
Marriage counsellor Kamal Khurana says it’s ‘only natural’ that people will spy on the other person’s profile before marriage. “But some people create fake profiles and flirt with the guy or girl to see if they reciprocate. Though a person’s social circle says a lot about them, one shouldn’t take decisions based on that.”
However, not everyone’s keen on the advice. “People keep an eye on their partner’s profile when they’re dating. Why not before marriage?” asks Rajat Saxena, 28, an engineer.