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‘It has grown too fast, the civility is not in step’

india Updated: Jan 07, 2012 22:41 IST

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Subinder Khurana (45) lives in the posh high-rise Windsor Courts overlooking Sikanderpur village. He moved to the city in 2003. He says Gurgaon can be a dream world.

“I find the stimulating environment created by the large concentration of educated professionals exciting.”

He, however, also says there is a clash between the dream world and the other side of the city that experiences extreme poverty, apathy and indiscipline of citizens. “The city has grown too fast and the civility hasn’t kept in step. The government, developers and all of us have gained so much from Gurgaon’s growth. Natives have benefited too financially. But somewhere, they have been left out of the growth story. There is a disparity of opportunities for them which leads to resentment and anger” he says.

‘Gurgaon bars are risky and not women friendly’
Sudipto Banerjee (28) Senior Manager, IT Sales is an IT professional who moved to the NCR a year ago from Mumbai and frequents Gurgaon’s party hubs. He believes it isn’t safe to hang out in Gurgaon unlike Mumbai.

“I was here on New Year’s eve 2011 but it turned out to be a bad experience. The crowd didn’t seem attuned to the pub scene. People pushed and shoved on the dance floor making it uncomfortable for our female colleagues. Particularly when you are with a female friend, chances of getting into trouble increase. It’s hard to hold back when drunken men leer at your partner. Now, I opt for private parties with friends rather than taking a risk in Gurgaon bars.”

‘We feel cheated by the outsiders in our land’
Anil Thakran (24) a collegiate from the nouveau riche Jharsa village near the upmarket South City, has two sedans and one SUV at his disposal.

He is a regular at city malls. At times he also goes to pubs but he doesn’t endorse what he sees there. “What happens inside bars doesn’t conform to our culture. Girls openly drink and dance there.” But why does he choose to go there? He says: “It’s hard to believe that our villages have changed so much. I want to check out on high life. I can still digest all these cultural changes but the family elders can’t. When I drive, elders point at girls in short dresses on the road.”

“We feel cheated by outsiders. We haven’t got our dues of development except for the initial money against our land,” says Thakran’s uncle.

‘Most customers are less decent and misbehave’
Vishal Sharma (35) bar bouncer and manager,has worked as a bouncer for seven years. He was born and brought up in Gurgaon. He had worked at one of city’s prominent pubs for three years before working in Mumbai and Delhi. He finds Gurgaon’s party scene completely different from other cities.

“Customers who come here are lesser decent. Unlike there, they love to break bar rules in Gurgaon: they won’t enter in queue if there is a rush, would flash rupee notes to demand drinks even after the bar closes,” he said. To make sure that women cutomers are not harassed, we the bouncers have to be on our toes. “Initially, even I, myself, used to be surprised by the way men and women drank publicly and danced cosily but now I have got attuned to it. “The trouble mongers are mostly those who have not seen it all before.”