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Karan Johar ‘De-friended’

Is it just me or have friendships taken a beating these days? When we were younger, every action and every decision was taken as a collective, a gang of best friends standing by each other through thick and thin, exploring and experimenting together because we had each other for support, writes Karan Johar.

india Updated: Sep 19, 2009 20:48 IST

Is it just me or have friendships taken a beating these days? When we were younger, every action and every decision was taken as a collective, a gang of best friends standing by each other through thick and thin, exploring and experimenting together because we had each other for support. We were much more gullible those days, and hardly ever stopped to ponder our actions, but we always knew that whether it was the chaotic corridors of school or the loud and robust canteens in college, there was a camaraderie that was constant.

Flash forward twenty years and the foundation of friendship has taken on a whole other façade. You can wake up tomorrow and find seven or eight new friend requests on Facebook; distant friends, friends of friends, and most of the time, random strangers. You may accept or reject them, but you can’t ignore the reality of this very scary social predicament; where did all the ‘good friends’ go?

Phones replaced letters, and then those long, glorious, chats on the phone were pushed aside for one line emails and broken language SMSes. If we don’t have the time to take each other’s calls, how will we find the time to bear a shoulder during a crisis?

As we get older we embark on a long period of extreme independence where we realise that we don’t really need anyone on a day-to-day basis. Cynicism, stubbornness, and often a fear of rejection surges over most of us, and we learn to not expect anything from anyone because inevitably, they will let you down.

Where I come from, I know (and am known to) a lot of people, but to identify the true friends amongst the crop is a balancing act I still have to master. So much of self-worth and self-confidence comes from a support structure that you’d like to believe won’t tremble, but with all the plastic friendships popping up, you really have to dig deeper and ask yourself who your people are in this world. Where do you find them and how can you ensure that they wont change? Are the oldest friends really the best of friends? Is a good friend someone who can affect you the most, and are you a bad friend if you cause your friend pain?

We are human and we bleed easy. Our actions might be restrained and our words of love and support may have shortened, but at the end of the day, all we really need is the security of knowing that there will always be someone in your corner who will run to you and clean you up no matter how severe your crimes are. I have learnt that friendships can’t be evaluated, and people shouldn’t put their friends up for trial.

There are no tricks or tips to life long friendships, but know that when you are in the presence of a friend and you feel safe, that they are the keepers and the ones worth fighting for. Mark them, brand them, do whatever you legally can do to them, but don’t ever let them go because when you’re staring the cold, harsh realities of life in the face, they will be the UV to your designer sunglasses, and the fleece to your coat, and on days like those, when all else seems bleak, they will be the ones to break your fall. Pick your friends wisely, and they will make you wiser. A wise man once told me that…and yes, he was a friend.

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