I told my daughter Sia about my pregnancy when I started showing, around the fourth month. She is extremely aware of what is going to happen. She loves children and knows she is going to have a sibling soon. At times, I make her talk to the baby, she loves that.
She knows what is coming. She has been told she will have to share her room. She also knows that the baby will use the cot that she has now outgrown. I have explained everything to her the way I always do. She understands. I know she will have her bad days but I think we will manage. I’m going to try my best not to jeopardise her routine. She is likely to notice a change in routine whereas a newborn doesn’t understand anything. I don’t know how successful I am going to be, but I’m going to try.
I also plan to involve her with the baby when it arrives. I’ve been told it is a good idea to ask her to help bring a diaper, hand me a wipe. This will make her feel involved so she won’t feel neglected. I want her to do things together with me.
I think the most important thing when you have a second child is to make the older child feel secure and loved. Children have a lot of insecurities, especially when it comes to sharing parents. I think it is important to reassure them. My plan is to try and concentrate on Sia as much as I can when the new baby comes.
I personally think it’s best not to have much of an age difference between children. Sia will be two and a half when the baby comes. I hope that will help them be closer because they will grow up together. Second, I want to get over with diaper duty in one go. I wouldn’t like to start with a baby all over again when my first child is five. Plus, I want to concentrate on my career after this.
TV actress Gautami Kapoor is expecting her second child in January...