CAREER OR marriage at the right age — this is the question troubled parents ask others in the same boat expecting to be comforted with a favourable viewpoint. However, the generation whom it concerns has already clarified its stand. Young people pursuing their professional interests bypassing the marriage are fast becoming a norm in the educated class.
The commercial theatre of Mumbai brought up the subject on stage. A play — He Vay Lagnache (This is the marriageable age) — whipped up an entertaining banter instead of addressing the issue. No wonder then the Marathi audience of Sanand, which is largely from service class and exposed to this trend, could not find much of a solution from it.
Coming to the engaging part, Cap’s Creations created an apparently happy nuclear family. The father had just opted for voluntary retirement and the mother, though highly qualified, never took up a job for the sole reason of looking after children.
When grown up, the son, a Sangh activist, is frustrated because his elder sister is not willing to marry, thereby blocking his prospects. If the parents are liberal and allow their daughter to stay late at work; if she finds her work interesting and is ambitious; spending long hours with her employer comes to admire him and even develops a platonic relationship, it is quite natural.
The ensuing drama does not need to be described because Mohan Joshi as father, Aditi Sharangdhar as daughter and Shakuntala Nare as mother were impressive, lovely and ideal respectively. Nilesh Nafde as a son, on the extreme of purist attitude, was amusing.
Playwright Rajan Mohadikar had incorporated crisp humour in good measure. But all the brouhaha was to elude the viewers of a conclusion acceptable to both generations. A youngster giving into the emotional blackmailing of elders is hardly cricket for sporting parents.
In proverbial good old times, the wayward youth fell in line because they had no options, lacked independent thinking and were firmly ruled by social dictates. Love in the wedlock was born out of desire initially and necessity for companionship later.
If the values are time tested, they must have sailed through troubled waters before, and would continue to do so in future also. Bright young people of today see it transparently and it is their life they wish to experiment with.
In fact, it calls for the parents to step into the shoes of their children, come clear of their inhibitions and evaluate the worth of the sacrifices they made. Theatre is a good platform to do so. The playwright forfeited this opportunity.