Achieving a satisfying balance between your personal life and work will make you better at both, write D. Quinn Mills along with Sasha K. Mattu and Kirstin R. Hornby in their book Having It All …and Making It Work. "Balance is a mixture of career and family engagement, which gives a person fulfillment and avoids tension, guilt and regret."
It is not that people who do not want families or do not pursue careers cannot be happy. If a person has no interest in a career or a family, it is fine as long as he or she is satisfied with that choice. But we need to be careful in making such decisions about our lives.
This is because for most people, satisfaction in life requires both family and career and people who choose one over the other or one not the other early in adult life often find themselves regretting bitterly in life what they have given up.
Balance may not be an even 50/50 split between career and family. Some people may feel balanced with 60 per cent career and 40 per cent family emphasis whereas others may choose to put more emphasis on family. You can determine this for yourself.
When rethinking priorities to achieve balance, you need to:
1 Think hard about what you really value and what you really want.
2 Try to imagine how you will feel some years from now if you have given up family for career or if you have given up career for family. Then do as your heart tells you.
3 Be proactive about attaining and maintaining balance.
4 Make a list of priorities that clarify what is most important at work and home life and be sure you make time for them.