Chatting with a friend who recently got married and discussing her transition from a daughter to a daughter-in-law, I was touched that a new relation had caused a sense of awakening in her about family unity.
Things she now misses most after marriage are fights with her mom, clarifying a late night outing to her elder brother when back home and dads hand on her head. She wants to fight with her mother to hug her more, she wants to communicate her silent sense of respect for her father and she wants to forgive her elder brother for being extra possessive.
In order to fulfill her individual desires, she led her own separate life as a daughter which left her disconnectedness within the family.
Are you spending enough time with your family? Who defines ‘enough’?
There is no measure or may be the only measure is the human emotion experienced while you are spending time with them. In the Gita, Arjuna stresses on the importance of home life. Its shattering causes melancholy for years.
Unity of the community as a whole is a result of unity of a particular family. Cultural purity of a family leads to unity of thought within family. To live by dharma means to maintain the cultural sanctity of one’s own family.
Respect for each other is the key for a happy and joyous family. Silent respect is often misunderstood. It has to be backed by communication. Talking, communicating and responding create threads of happiness in human ties. They flourish when watered with love, tears and cheers- catalyst of all being communication.
Another crucial factor is the practice of forgiveness. Krishna says in the Gita that ‘forgiveness is one of the characteristics of one born for a divine state’. A hug is the most underestimated and least practiced act by many. We do believe in the power of sharing love through hugs; but do we practice it? When was the last time you hugged your mother to tell her you love her?