Being a son or a daughter to your parents, practically means that you will never grow up. Doesn’t matter if the number of candles don’t fit on your two-pound birthday cake any longer, for them you’re always a ‘kid’. HT City spoke with a few people who confessed being perennial babies to their parents/relatives and others who managed to come out of the cradle.
“I am 38, and I have two kids but I am still a baby for my parents. I don’t mind it now, but during my growing up years it was very frustrating to be seen as a kid, when one is going through a phase when one wants to be treated as an equal — an adult,” says Swapan Kumar, 38.
This is a situation that many of us relate to. “I don’t think that one has to live upto anyone’s expectations to prove that he/she is worthy of equality in life. Just because parents’ have reared their kids doesn’t mean that the children have to give-in to everything the parents expect from them,” says Shweta Vijay, 30, a relationship manager.
“Parents often oscillate between labeling their child an adult or a kid depending on the need of the hour. This can be both confusing and frustrating for a person, as this could make him/her unsure and indecisive in his/her actions thereby negatively affecting his confidence for life,” says psychiatrist Sanjay Chugh.
Some people (sons/daughters) see their parents stipulating behaviour towards them as their right (for feeding them, meeting their unruly demands for fancy clothes and pizzas in the years gone by), but there are some who want their elders to treat them at par.
Point of view
“Elders in our country don’t respect a person’s individuality. Being younger in age always mean that you are a kid, and they have the right to snap at you. I think like elders have endless advises to give to youngsters, they should also be given some behavioral lessons,” says Ritu Pant, a media person.
“Elders need to stop manipulating situations and act more responsibly to eliminate feelings of doubt and frustration,” adds Chugh.