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To be, or not be single

india Updated: Oct 12, 2012 16:22 IST
Serena Menon
Serena Menon

Whether you’re a social butterfly or not, being single in this city — or worse, ready to mingle — is a tough ‘relationship status’ for many. Most of us have heard this complaint. And men usually follow it up with the pet peeve: “Indian women are stuck up”. Not all, but it is safe to say many, truly are. Men are too, but women are more. If you’re a good looking guy approaching a woman at a pub, you’re a womaniser, and if you’re not-so-stunning, then you’re Mogambo.

These girls usually end up taking up your chances of finding someone right. They will probably flirt with you and then when you (a guy, in this case) approach them, they’ll react like you’ve murdered their cat. They also want to meet new men, but they’d rather rely on the go-betweens.

Nonetheless, seated on the other side of the fence, it might be easy for me to make this statement, but having achieved some objectivity about my kind, I can empathise with the men.

Approaching a girl at a bar, while she obviously begins looking around for her herd, isn’t the most comfortable situation. Sure, women have to be careful, but at a reliable pub, which maybe the ladies will feel comfortable even visiting alone, what are the chances of them bumping into a serial killer?

Some people have even tried finding solutions to this issue. In 2006, a group of four men set up Bombay Speed D8. And in 2009, a report studied its failure and shutdown. And then they expect us to believe that we came up with the idea of the swayamwar.

One such service that has survived and comes to mind is Speed Coffee. They claim they screen the hell out of those who register, especially men, since they want women to feel safe.

Who knows whether their technique works, but the fact that they’re organising three sessions at the end of this month probably means they’re doing something right.

At least someone is.