Virtues of calmness
We, as human beings, experience a lot of emotion. We celebrate the birth of a baby and experience the pain and emptiness on the death of a relative.india Updated: Sep 09, 2012 23:01 IST
We, as human beings, experience a lot of emotion. We celebrate the birth of a baby and experience the pain and emptiness on the death of a relative.
Between these two extremes, lies a gamut of emotions. Strong emotions like anger deserve contempt. We say anger is provoked; but different people react differently to the same situation. How and what we do when provoked, can make or mar our future.
Take road rage, for example. Such incidents make headlines almost every other week. We must not lose our temper at the slightest provocation. Other person’s viewpoint must be reviewed calmly and dispassionately.
Anger can never solve any problem but it may very well lead to violence. Bitterness arising due to anger takes a long time to heal. A calm disposition to deal with ugly situations and unreasonable people must be cultivated if we wish to lead a peaceful existence.
Virtues of patience are many when dealing with anger. Take the case of this old man who asked his son about a bird. “It is a crow”, replied the son. After a while, the old man repeated the same query. The son repeated that it was a crow. After keeping quiet for some time, the old man asked his dutiful son about the same bird. The son, though irritated, remained calm and replied, “This black bird’s name is crow.”
When the question was repeated one more time, the son shouted back, “You are getting old and forgetful. This bird is a crow.” The father smiled and said,” I know about the bird but it was a test. When you were a young boy, you used to ask me the same question over a thousand times and I replied calmly. I never got irritated over the sameness of the question.” The son felt sorry but he got a great lesson.