More than 80 per cent of Mumbai’s men in their twenties would marry a woman who is more educated or earns more than them, but less than half would do so if the woman can’t or won’t cook.
When it comes to child-rearing, slightly more than half of the city’s married men in their thirties would consider becoming stay-at-home dads.
Nearly two-thirds of the men between the age 25 and 40 believe that there are some jobs women just cannot do and nearly a third believe that organisations should not make a special effort to help women with families remain in the workplace or to rejoin it after they have given birth to a child.
These mixed findings came out of a HT-Cfore survey of middle- and upper-middle class men who have grown up in Mumbai. Each question was posed to 500 men in the relevant age groups.
The survey of men was conducted between March 3 and 6, in the run-up to International Women’s Day, celebrated today.
Although there is no earlier benchmark with which to compare the findings, anecdotal evidence seems to suggest that our city’s men have become more egalitarian over the past decade.
“With every generation, the boundaries get pushed further,” said Darshan Parekh (27), an IT professional.
But Jerry Pinto, a former consulting editor with Man’s World and the author of Surviving Women, published in 2000, believes men’s attitudes haven’t changed enough.
“It is like a talk show on feminism – men know the right sounds to make but do not know follow it up with action,” he said. “Most men above 40 years of age were mothered badly and continue to operate as if they are kings of the universe. Change will happen only when women raise a generation of sons who are taught to be independent.”