The cause of one-fourth of the marital disputes are trivial and with little counselling couples can live happily even after taking the discord to the police station. This is what the data of Crime Against Women Cell in Sector 17 for 2015 reveals. As per the data, the cell received 2,414 complaints, of which 1,912 were disposed off and a compromise was struck in 605 cases.
Discord between spouses can also be due to ego, property, money, illicit relations, drinking habit etc. Police officials at the cell said they were receiving a number complaints from women where misunderstanding between the couple was the only reason. Cell in-charge inspector Harjeet Kaur said there was a newly-wed couple involving a Ludhiana girl and a local boy. “It was a love marriage and all hell broke loose when the boy’s parents came to know that their daughter-in-law drank occasionally. The boy’s parents asked him to call the marriage null and void. During inquiry, it was learnt that the boy knew before marriage that his would-be-wife drank. The complaint is being investigated.” She said they were counselling the couple, but the chasm had widened between them.
She said there were cases wherein wives decided to divorce their husbands on minor issues such as husbands not allowing them to use mobile phones as and when they wanted; or didn’t give them access to their (husbands’) SMSes and friend list. In other complaints, disputes involved demand for share in property and wealth of the husband’s family. In some cases, either of the spouses apprehended that his or her partner was cheating and having an extra-marital affair.
Interestingly, there were complaints wherein discord was due to wife’s opposition to leave Chandigarh even though the husband belonged to some other city.
There were also complaints against husbands who wanted or forced their wives to have unnatural sex, the inspector said.
In December 2015, about 73 couples entered into a compromise after counselling at the cell. “Happy ending to the discord was mainly in cases where couples’ family members and friends intervened to make amends between the two,” said Kaur.