"Child psychiatry and counselling in schools were unheard of a few years ago, but now parents are rushing to psychiatrists and counsellors seeking replies to irrational behaviour of their children, whereas in reality it is the parents who need to change their attitude as every child is a photocopy of his or her parents," said inspirational speaker Brahma Kumari (BK) Shivani.
The celebrity speaker interacted with women from various walks of life during a special programme on "Women Empowerment" organised under the aegis of Ludhiana chapter of Brahma Kumaris on Saturday.
Stating that criticism and negative reaction disempower children, which is why they stop trusting parents, BK Shivani said the golden rule to handle children was to extend support and give reassurance wherever they were in a state of fear and guilt. Her orientation was packed with punches and humorous excerpts from daily life that left the listeners asking for more, even as women and girls queued near the stage asking for remedies to their problems. Terming problems and situations as stimulants, BK Shivani stated that it was important to have a right equation to deal with life. "Getting hurt, becoming sad, jealous, angry is like giving the remote control of your life in the hands of others who control your moods with their moves, but as soon as you take control over your feelings and feed your mind with positive thoughts, you become happy thereby making everyone around you happy," the orator said.
She cited the example of an irritated husband coming home and shouting at his wife, who she said instead of getting a sympathetic shoulder got a shout back with doubled energy from the wife, thus, the result was fight, negative energy and finally silence which is more damaging.
An engineer by profession, BK Shivani referred to "television programmes" as food for thought, adding that "majority of the serials shown on our channels focused around manipulations, jealousy, malice, fear, insecurity, which gradually became a part of our lives. "Avoid watching such programmes, instead watch something that fills you with positive energy," the Brahma Kumari added.
BK Shivani's discourse on holistic healing at APICON 2014, specially organised for the doctors attending the conference, was a big hit. Doctors from across the country and overseas patiently listened to BK Shivani as she advised the doctors to empower their minds and souls so as to pass on positive vibes to patients. "There should be an aura around the doctors which should give hope to the distressed and sick," the speaker added.