Chances are that a straw poll among our friends of what they value the most would result in their phones coming out toppers — sometimes even before the relationships! As the (February 14), which is preceded by days dedicated to rose, chocolate, teddy, kiss and God-knows-what-else, approaches, the commercial pandering to the emotion of love rolls out!
With e-gifting portals and forwarded messages, and convenient emojis over the phone on an overdrive at this time, one wonders what happened to the old-school form of love? This is not among grown-ups only— schoolchildren these days are aware of getting a branded and a hefty gift for his or her love interest, if he or she wants to make a successful coming out (Victorian version) this Valentine season!
I remember as an adolescent, if it weren’t for those handwritten self-thought out notes, there wouldn’t have been great sweet-sour memories. Like the one that started ‘Hi, you are my mother’s namesake!’ or the ones in which you came across clichés of hit 90’s movie. How can you forget other scribbled notes that made for great reads just because of their hilarious grammatical errors; or the ones that professed genuine love, a note passed across ten students in the class.
Let’s also not forget ‘the one who got away’ either because of your ego or your insistence on playing hard to get, or because of your never getting to know that they had, ‘feelings’ for you—just the talk that made it to birthday parties and local gossip! Self composed pompous poetry that bordered on ‘Roses are red and violets are blue’, mixed with ‘Shall I compare thee to…’ (God bless Shakespeare’s soul), were exchanged and paraded with glee. I remember avoiding red dresses around this time, lest I be considered an eager sort. Also, how about remembering the Twitter about the imagined ‘proposal’ and rejections— a subject almost a taboo, especially in small towns!
Nowadays, greeting card companies do booming business, and if it weren’t for them, we would probably not make such fanfare about this day! Designers will tell you the ‘look’ of the day and some people will go as far as telling you ‘boyfriend-proof’ make up! Wow!
The only thing missing is a Mr Darcy, the rest you’re ready for! I suppose this change is inevitable and also a ‘constant’. I don’t want to make it a ‘then versus now’ debate, St Valentine’s Day will come and go, what has changed is the way of expressing love—a hashtag phenomenon that trends and fizzles away! What with a whole industry based on churning out assembly line love couplets, traded on instant messages which go on an overdrive, especially around these times! Spring—“Tis a season to love and it comes in all forms—companionship, tolerance, patience and respect, and true love conquer all!” None better than Shakespeare to tell us that, “Who can prevent Time from destroying beauty? O, none, unless this miracle have might, None, unless there is hope in the miracle of my verse, That in black ink my love may still shine bright!” Here’s hoping for love and peace for everyone!