They may not have my eyes, they may not have my smile, but they have all my heart. As talkative as we are as a nation, adoption remains a topic that continues to make us uncomfortable. We may laud Sushmita Sen and Raveena Tandon but, deep down, we continue to be sceptical of an ‘adoptive’ bond.On Mothers’ Day, HT talked to some exceptional women who broke norms, adopted children, and just cannot stop gushing about it.
‘O’ when they laugh’
Five months ago, Neetu Sahota (37) with two grown-up children decided to adopt twin girls Shrishti and Drishti. “We got to know someone in the family had triplets after two kids already. We thought how difficult it would be for the couple to bring up five children. That’s when my husband and I decided to adopt two of the girls,” says Neetu. Do mothers treat foster children differently? “Pet se bachche nahi hote (wombs alone don’t make children),” she says, “You have no idea how happy I feel when the little girls laugh. Maa ki nazar mein koi farak nahi hoti (A mother doesn’t differentiate between her kids). They are all mine.”
‘She resembles me’
At 53, adoption wasn’t an easy decision to go for. “We had been trying for a child for so long but luck smiled on me now,” says the mother who adopted a girl in 2013. She takes pride in saying about her daughter that “she resembles me”. “She is my daughter after all, she has grown so tall.” It is only when someone reminds us that I remember that she wasn’t born of me. “My daughter doesn’t feel adopted either. We celebrated her first birthday like a small wedding,” says the mother.
‘It was meant to be’
About three years ago, Madhu Vig, also 53, a non-believer in ‘miracle chain messages’, happened to forward one just to see what happens. The message said your wish would come true in four days. She then forgot about it and on Day 4, she got a call: “Do you want a child?” Madhu froze and, instinctively, without having seen the child or even inquiring what gender, said “yes.” That is how Noor entered her life. Motherhood, she says, is “Absolutely fantastic,” she beams with Noor playing nearby, “When someone is supposed to enter your life, they just do. It was meant to be.”