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10 secrets men and women keep from their partners

Now, before you start cursing your rotten luck, for making a disastrous love choice, tell yourself that all of us keep a few things privy to ourselves, even beyond the reach of people closest to us. Want to be a smart lover, play the I-know-it-all card with your partner. Read on.

sex and relationships Updated: Jul 03, 2014 12:58 IST
Divya Makhija
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Your partner goes a week without a shower? Digs his nose on the sly? She doesn't change her lingerie as frequently as she tells her girlfriends? Or, does she secretly feel jealous of that young junior of hers in the office? Ah, the secrets people keep from their partners. Now, before you start cursing your rotten luck, for making a disastrous love choice, tell yourself that all of us keep a few things privy to ourselves, even beyond the reach of people closest to us. Want to be a smart lover, play the I-know-it-all card with your partner. Read on.

Five things he'd never tell you

1 That he's depressed
Studies suggest that men, well, most of them, are much less likely to admit to feeling depressed to women. On the face of it, you could blame it on that dangerously misplaced thing called ego. It comes naturally for men to live up to their cool-stud macho stereotype. While research is yet to suggest anything conclusive about it, men say they do it because they don't know whom to turn to for support. Keep all the snooping aside and keep your eyes open to spot signs that suggest your man is depressed.

2 That he didn't really love you back then
Did he ever tell you that he loved you too soon? He did? Don't fall for it. If he said he fell in love with your lovely smile the first time he saw you, he must have said it to get you into his bed.

3 That he finds your best friend/sister attractive
He'll never tell you that he finds your best friend/younger sister hot, no matter how chilled out a girlfriend you are. Why? Because he's read enough agony aunt columns to know that no girl will take it kindly that her boyfriend lusts for someone other than her.

4 That he wants a hug
According to a study by the Kinsey Institute, for men, hugging and kissing are very important to their overall happiness in a relationship but they would never tell you this directly. So the next time you see your boyfriend, give him a big squeeze because the chances are he's desperate for it but won't ever ask you for it.

5 That he thinks your brother is a loser!
Your man will never tell you that he doesn't like your brother, or that he thinks your brother's life is not going anywhere. Perhaps, he doesn't think too highly of your dad too.

Enough of guy bashing. Here are five secrets women keep from their men.

1 That size matters…of the bank balance
Studies after studies suggest have conclusively proven that women do like men with money. The more they have, the better boyfriends they are for them. No matter how much she denies her love for your money, the truth is she wants you to be rich.

2 That her best friend knows everything
Don't fool yourself into thinking everything about both of you is just between you and your girl. Wake up, guys! Her best friend knows everything: from the size of your bank account to the size of your…umm… you know what! She even knows how good you're in bed.

3 That she still misses her ex
She probably also compares you with him, and secretly rues the fact that he's not with her anymore. This is a baggage she carries, and you probably has got the wrong end of the bargain.

4 That you are not just the second man in her life
She will never give you the correct figure. She is most likely to bend the truth about the number of affairs she's had before him (surely if there'd been many) and how flirty she is/was.

5 That sex is as important to her as it is for you
Guys, do you constantly feel like you've to beg her for sex? Do you find yourself doing too much of request to get her into bed? Is it because they don't feel it's important? Relax, it's not so! Studies suggest that women too are driven by physical intimacy. That they are not as vocal about it as you guys, it's probably because they want to be pampered and want their men to ask for it.