How do you make someone fall in love with you? You can’t force someone to fall in love, but you can certainly work around it. To fall in love, and not have it reciprocated is soul-crushing, but it’s not the end of the world (even if it feels like it). Learn what not to do from your previous mistakes, and know how to do it right, and have him falling head-over-heels for you soon with these handy guidelines.
1 Just Be You: While this may begin to sound like a broken record, it’s true – you have to just be you. It’s simple and profound, and yet very few do. It takes a lot of courage to be unabashedly yourself – warts and all. Make him fall in love with who you are as a person, not what you portray yourself to be. Looks will only get you so far, but at the end of the day – a deeper and more meaningful connection will go the distance. Look and feel good when you step out because you never know if love is just around the corner for you.
2 Confidence: One of the biggest turn-ons is confidence and self-assuredness. It’s funny how confidence is often underrated, and yet it is the most crucial element in forging any kind of relationship. So, ladies, be confident; more so when you don’t feel it, fake that confidence, and over a period it will become your second skin.
3 Play hard to get: In the beginning, men love the thrill of the chase. And one of the biggest mistakes a woman makes is to become available at the drop of a hat. Do not turn your schedule upside down just for him. This, ladies, is one of the quickest turn-offs for a guy. Because, desperation and neediness do not a lovely colour make. Instead of them being drawn to you, it makes them run for the hills, instead. So, the idea here is to downplay it, and make him sweat a bit. Create some excitement and tension; be a little mysterious. At the same time, know exactly when to give in, because if you play too hard, then you’re just going to turn him off of you for good, which is not the idea here.
4 All the little things: It’s the little things that have the heaviest and most significant impact. Do something that’s small but meaningful. That bond and sense of intimacy is unparalleled that comes from that kind of gesture goes a long way. It could be as simple as picking up his favourite food to cheer him on a particularly rough day, or even go for a football match at your local stadium, even if you are not a fan of the game. Make him feel loved and valued, and appreciate it when he does something for you as simple as fixing a light bulb to getting the carpentry or electrical work done. If you’re not sure about a particular situation at work, seek his opinion.
5 Show your vulnerable side: And that doesn’t mean you put on the damsel-in-distress act as and when you please. It takes a great deal of trust and courage to show someone your vulnerable side. And, men, are biologically hard-wired to protect those in need, and makes them feel like a superhero to the rescue, and that translates to a pretty amazing feeling.
Do you have any signature moves to make him fall in love with you? Send in your answers in the comments section.
Simran Mangharam is an expert on relationships and co-founder of Floh.in, a curated network that connects singles in real life.