If I get 700 mails in a week from you, at least 500 are about a broken heart. And no, not of the medical kinds. Had that been the case, I could have tied up with a hospital and made some money by referring you to them. You write about the emotional heartbreak. Can’t blame you, I too, was like this as a teenager, but uff, I’m seeing more and more drama queens these days. People just like to overdramatise ­everything — I will die without her, I don’t want to live anymore because he hasn’t replied to my text for six hours now. Arrey chhodo. Ab yehi reason reh gaya marne ke liye?Please take the trouble of asking a senior... someone who managed to get his/her love and have lived with that person for 10-15 years. They’ll tell you how they clamour to get some peaceful moments, without the ‘love of their life’ lurking around, looking for a new reason to fight. Of course love exists in their case too, but the expression and intensity assume some semblance of maturity and sanity. Khair that’s not the point of discussion here.
Don’t seek too much advice: As a race, we love and specialise in advising others. When it comes to matters of heart, then toh we go overboard telling people what to do. May I please request you something... give your heartbreak the dignity of healing without making it the subject of someone else’s water cooler gossip. Don’t ask for advice from the whole world. Also, don’t move around with Devdas written all over you so that people start advising you even when you’ve not asked. Frankly, no one else lives your life for you. And it’s very easy for your friends to tell you how to get over grief and for people like me to write columns on what you should do. But it’s ­another thing for you to live through the experience of pain. Go through it quietly, and give it time. Do just what your mind tells you too. I would have said heart, but woh toh toot gaya nah! Oops, bad joke again.
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3 Everything ends: This will sound very weird (as though the rest of the writeup doesn’t), but the universal truth is that every relationship in this world ends. I’d once read somewhere that whether it comes through an untimely breakup, or a ­detachment of the mind, or ­ultimately death... but the end of any relationship is inevitable. And people still have to go on with their lives. Why not then, go on with it happily, till it lasts.
Treat heartbreaks as ­temporary setbacks and signals that things didn’t work out only because something better is in store for you, or the other person. In both cases, the pain is worth it.
4 You are not alone: If it helps, do know that scientists who have nothing better to do have come up with studies that reveal that over 70% of people in this world experience heartbreak at some point or the other, in life. Over 40% are toota-dil veterans who undergo it more than once in life. That’s massive company you have. And still look at how the world’s population is bursting at its seams. Finally, the ­lesson: People may die of heart failure, but no one dies of ­heartbreak. It just heals. No more drama. Just get over it and get yourself a life.
Sonal Kalra would have given more suggestions on the topic but she’s nursing a bad heartbreak :) Mail her at email@example.com or facebook.com/sonalkalra13. Follow on Twitter ­@sonalkalra