If stress, fatigue and lack of time has sent your sex life downhill, it’s time you change your lifestyle for some serious action between the sheets. Experts say that a growing number of couples are not having sex for varied reasons, and that could spell disaster on their relationship.
Once a couple’s sex life comes to a halt, their relationship faces the risk of collapsing. There could be detachment from each other, anger, and even infidelity or divorce, warn experts. “Sex is the ultimate expression of love between two people, and is of course important in a relationship. It makes the bond of the couple stronger, helps them relieve stress and come closer,” says relationship expert Jai Madan. It is also something that differentiates a romantic relationship from a platonic one, she adds. The arrival of a new baby can also put a dampener on sex. To avoid this, it’s important for a couple to take some baby time out. Try and seek help from friends, family members or a child minder who can care for the baby and give you a break, suggests Adelaide Aduboffour, author of Sex & Romance During Pregnancy and After Birth.
On top of the broken nights and multitude of new skills being learnt for a baby, suddenly finding that you’re looking after the house can easily put a woman off sex, too. To handle this, the best approach would be to appoint some tasks to your partner, so that they know their role in upkeep of the house, that would help share the load.
Don’t try to be a superwoman by doing the entire housework and caring for the baby, Aduboffour advises women. It’s also important for couples to rejig their work/childcare schedules by going on a date, having a monthly cinema hook up, or a regular date night at home.
(With inputs from agencies)