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Are you a humblebragger? It could ruin your budding relationship

It’s the art of bragging without bragging at all. Here’s how it can ruin a budding relationship

sex and relationships Updated: Apr 12, 2016 14:45 IST
Abhinav Verma
The art of humblebragging can be defined as a situation where a person makes a self-deprecating statement to draw attention to something that one is proud of and would like to boast about.
The art of humblebragging can be defined as a situation where a person makes a self-deprecating statement to draw attention to something that one is proud of and would like to boast about.(Istock)

Someone told me that I look like George Clooney? Yeah right# really # I wish# thanks for crushing my ego#”

If you read this tweet you ought to be confused, thinking why would anyone feel disappointed when they get a compliment?

So look closer, its subtle but it’s right there, you brag about getting a compliment but since you don’t want to admit that you are bragging, you hide that fact by following up that statement with a self-deprecating remark, clever isn’t it!

Ladies and gentlemen, say hello to the new relationship killer — the humblebragger. The art of humblebragging can be defined as a situation where a person makes a self-deprecating statement to draw attention to something that one is proud of and would like to boast about.

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“If your looking to impress your potential date, humblebragging can create problems, because it can leave your date confused. It can make them wonder whether you are looking for attention or approval,” says relationship expert Dr Kamal Khurana.

“Humblebragging is a classic case of false modesty. You want to say something to your date, you want them to be in awe of you but you refrain because you don’t want to come across as immodest. It’s a way of expressing something in a veiled manner,” says relationship expert Jai Madan, but warns against doing it. “This can ruin a relationship. If you want to brag then just brag openly. Clarity in communication is the key to a good relationship,” she says.