Have frequent arguments and fights led to you earning a bad name? Take the following quiz to find out if you need to take an anger management course.
While communicating with others, if someone disagrees to what I am saying, then:
a. I’ll just keep quiet to avoid any further conflicts.
b. I’ll disagree with the person but continue to communicate with them positively.
c. I feel like using profanity and easily become impatient with that person.
a. I’ll accept it as I feel I can’t do much about it.
b. I’ll speak up for my rights without violating theirs.
c. I’ll get very annoyed, having strong feelings of unjust and I’ll fight back.
Do I get into public fights, such as on the streets or at restaurants, which have even led to physical abuse at times?
a. No, never.
b. Maybe verbal fights but never physical abuses .
c. Yes, a couple of times.
When someone annoys me:
a. I just get out of the situation to avoid fights.
b. I’ll explain to that person exactly what part of his behavior is annoying me, and request them to stop.
c. I can’t wait to fight back and give them a piece of my mind.
Anger to me is:
a. A horrible feeling; something I must stay away from.
b. An emotion I can express through a good behavior.
c. Something I need to show, so people fear me and don’t take advantage of me.
People in my family often label me as:
a. Passive and docile.
b. Self-assured and emphatic.
c. Stubborn and rude/mean.
You are very submissive. You almost never lose self-control, even when it comes to your negative emotions. You think of what others will feel. This could be due to your low self-esteem, leaving you with an unsatisfied need.
You are an assertive person. You not only take care of your feelings, but also the comforts of others. You believe in resolving conflicts than getting into fights. You have good self-confidence, which helps you stand up for what you feel you deserve in a respectful way.
You are a very aggressive person who really needs anger management. You pick up fights easily and even end up using profanity. You let out all your pent up emotions through anger.
Live and let live
* Change your negative thoughts into positive
* Relaxation therapy helps
* Assertive training helps in making you less aggressive
* Myths need to be corrected to facts such as anger is not inherited, venting out anger is good for health