Be secure to improve sex life
People who feel secure in their relationship with their partner have a more satisfactory sex life and are more able to be sensitive in the affection they give, says a new Spanish study.sex and relationships Updated: Jun 05, 2011 00:51 IST
People who feel secure in their relationship with their partner have a more satisfactory sex life and are more able to be sensitive in the affection they give, says a new Spanish study. People who are insecure, who tend towards anxiety or avoidance and are compulsive or controlling in their affection, experience more conflict in their sexual desire and are less happy in their relationships. “Our results show that insecure people tend to be compulsive in their care for their partners, while people prone to avoidance, tend to be controlling and exhibit greater conflict in their sexual desire,” says Javier Gómez Zapiain, professor of the psychology of sexuality at the University of the Basque Country, Spain, who led the study, a varsity statement said.
Gómez Zapiain’s research group studied the level of conflict in people’s erotic desire, their degree of satisfaction with their sexual life and other factors related with sexual behaviour and care, based on a sample of 211 long-term couples in the Basque Country. “The objective of this study was to study the relationship between three essential relationships in human conduct — sexual, affective and caring behaviour. We tried to obtain empirical evidence that harmony between these three systems contributes to the quality of a couple’s relationship,” says Gómez Zapiain. “Anxious people react by clinging to their partner and caring for them compulsively. Avoidant types react by evading their relationship. These people also have more problems in the area of intimacy,” he added.