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Be sure of the love: Cyrus Broacha

sex and relationships Updated: Jan 02, 2017 19:30 IST
Cyrus Broacha
Cyrus Broacha
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Are you having relationship troubles? Is the long distance bothering you or do you have trust issues? Are you looking for someone to talk your heart out about these problems?

Worry not. So, TV anchor, theatre personality, comedian, political satirist, columnist and author, Cyrus Broacha is here to help you: From navigating relationship trouble to helping your love life go the distance, he's got all the dating advice you'll ever need from your first date to something that you can't find a solution to.

From how to approach your crush to how to handle a break up, shoot your questions to Cyrus and he will answer them.

Last year, I met a guy on a marriage portal. He said that his parents won't have any problems with an inter-caste marriage. But after a few days, he said his mother won't allow us to get married and that he will marry a woman of her choice. But the problem is that I started loving him. He too loves me. Should I try to convince his mother? What should I do? - Stranger
Does this boy, who on a marriage portal said his mother approves of inter-caste marriage, and then changes her mind, have two mothers? Secondly, he says he'll marry a woman of his mother's choice. Yet he loves you? Are there two different guys as well? And how do you know he loves you if he has never confirmed the same? And how does he know you love him, if you haven't told him yet? Before convincing his mother, or mothers, please find out what you really mean to each other. Usually, I'm no fan of honesty, but in this case, you and he need a dose of that very thing. First, be sure of the love, then we can look at the family.

I chat with a girl on Facebook and I like her. I've never given her an indication of the feelings that I have for her. How do I tell her? - SB
To make love grow, you need to let it grow out of Facebook. For example, my friend Birju liked this snake on someone's Facebook page. For four years, they chatted, and just when he asked if he could meet the snake in person, he was told the snake had got lost during a school picnic and now couldn't be found. Don't let this girl get lost at a school picnic like the snake, and ask her out. It's the first rule of engagement.

I have been in a relationship for seven years. But now, my girlfriend doesn't talk to me. She has blocked me everywhere. I was possessive of her, as I cared for her a lot. I love her and want to be back in her life. Now I know where I was wrong. What should I do? - NS
Oh, NS, possessiveness is a poisonous fruit. I, too, have tasted that bitter pill. I'm going to tell you my story. It's a sad one and I hope you can handle it without tears. I, too, was guilty of possessiveness once. I loved, I longed and I never left her side. I was so attached that I would talk of nothing else. Finally, my mother said 'enough is enough'. One weekend when I was out of town, they sold the sofa. Yes, the "sofa". The one that was my bosom buddy, my blood brother, my comrade in arms. The one I was so possessive about, that no one else dare ever sit on it. I can't get the sofa back, because it's been shipped to a maternity home in China. But you still have a chance. You have to throw yourself at her feet, and show that you've changed. This can be done by wearing different clothes, colouring your hair, or duh, altering your possessive personality! Show her the new you, which should have been the old you.

I broke up with my first love two years back. She has been single till date. When I proposed to her again, she said she doesn't want to be in a relationship with anyone for three years. I am getting marriage proposals. But I don't want to cheat on my love and I don't want to be alone as well. Help me. - AEG
AEG, you broke up with her, which doesn't automatically mean you can get her back by snapping your fingers. I've tried the latter and you only land up hurting your fingers, which you then can't use for digging, poking and making obscene signals at traffic lights. Please don't get married while you are in love with her. Woo her back. You know what she likes, so charm her and amuse her. Undo your do, bro, to quote the Bard. If she still loves you, you'll know soon enough. If not, you can then consider the proposals.