From singlehood to coupledom: 5 ways to make an effortless transition
Tired of being the third wheel in your friend's life, or being a back-up plus one? Or simply tired of being alone, and are looking to find someone to share your life with. Here are five ways to consider before you make that effortless transition from being single.sex and relationships Updated: Apr 28, 2015 18:57 IST
Tired of being the third wheel in your friend's life, or being a back-up plus one? Or simply tired of being alone, and are looking to find someone to share your life with. Here are five ways to consider before you make that effortless transition from being single.
1 Ask questions: Before you embark on the relationship bandwagon, you first need to ask yourself some pertinent questions that requires courage and honesty. You need to figure out what you're looking for - is it something that is short-term or long-term? What expectations do you have of your partner and yourself, and the most important of all - are you ready to be in one? These questions are necessary because once you've laid your cards are on the table, you'll know exactly what you're looking for, and make it easier for yourself.
2 Drop your baggage: It's easy to slip back into that comfort zone, but avoid doing so. Don't let your past relationship hinder your progress in finding a current one. That is a closed chapter which one needs to move on from. The beauty of past relationships is that you get to learn from those mistakes, and have the opportunity to avoid making the same in the next relationship. Everybody is different, so while it's natural to compare, it's best avoided because you will never move on from there, and you'll fail to appreciate the person in front of you.
3 Put yourself out there: As the adage goes, "No pain, no gain." Similarly, you need to put yourself out there. If you're serious about being in a relationship, then you need to start saying 'yes' to every opportunity. Go to parties and other social gatherings with your mates. Else, if you are the shy sort, fret not, for you have technology at your disposal with numerous dating apps to choose from. Use it.
4 No Typecasting: When it comes to dating, it's important to keep an open mind. Because if you happen to have a long list of must-haves, then you are pretty much shooting yourself in the foot, and writing the person off because he or she did not conform to your precious list. But that does not mean, you abandon that list altogether in the pursuit of being in a relationship. By all means, do have a few non-negotiable rules, but you also need to remain flexible. Once those typecasting blinkers are off, finding that special someone opens up numerous avenues.
5 Confidence: Confidence is the key to getting anywhere in life - be it work or relationships. You may not have the body of a model, but if you exude confidence, half your battle is won. Besides this, first impressions are the ones that last, so dress well. That being said, you also need to be yourself - quirks and all.
So, go on and find your special someone.
By Siddharth Mangharam. The writer is an expert on relationships and co-founder of www.floh.in, a curated network that helps singles find a life partner.