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How do sparks fly when you meet that old friend?

sex-and-relationships Updated: Jan 14, 2013 17:54 IST
Sumedha Deo
Sumedha Deo
Hindustan Times
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You remember that boy in school or college who you were always friendly with but never thought of as anything more? Cut to present. It’s years later, and you meet him on a social networking site. Sparks fly and you realise there’s more to the old friendship than you thought possible.

People in their twenties and early thirties are experiencing this phenomenon quite frequently. We speak to three city couples who’ve been through this experience about their old-new love stories.

Best friend’s sister
Sometimes, it’s age or other factors that keep you from approaching a person you like. For 32-year-old Vikram Sabnis, the thought of dating his friend’s sister wouldn’t have occurred to him earlier. It’s bro code. I always thought of Shilpa as my best friend’s baby sister who’d be busy playing with her dolls whenever I went over to their place. It’s only when she moved to my city for studies and contacted me on Facebook that I even remembered that she existed, he says. Shilpa asked Vikram to help her set up house and find her feet in Pune, a city that was alien to her. Even then, Vikram thought of her as a kid since they have nearly 10 years between them. He didn’t take me seriously. It was only when he had an accident and I took care of him that he realised that I was more than a friend, says Shilpa. The couple has been dating for three years and plan to get married this year.

Friends with benefits
By the time you hit quarter life, chances are you’ve probably been through a couple of relationships that didn’t work out but you’ve got your life fairly sorted out. This is the time when most of us are looking for something serious and who better to start a new journey with than an old friend. I never really paid much attention to Rohan when we were in catering school together, says Joshleen D’Souza, a 28-year-old writer with a magazine. We used to hang out in a group of classmates and were on friendly terms. But recently, when he got in touch with me for help with his new venture, I realised there was more to it than I first figured.
Rohan Sharma, on the other hand, always thought of Joshleen as cute and smart but didn’t approach her as she was in a relationship at the time.A mutual friend suggested I ask for her help. But when I contacted her after a gap of nearly 10 years, I didn’t expect her to be single. She helped set up my new business, even going so far as to investing in it. Since I wasn’t in the country, we flirted over texts and chats for nearly three months before I moved back and officially asked her out, he says.

Too cool for School
He was just a boy in my class who I was friendly with but didn’t think much about. Years later, he sent me a friend request on Facebook. We got chatting about school and how it has been after and decided to meet up. On the first date itself, I was smitten, gushes 26-year-old dentist Urvi Doshi, who recently started dating her friend from school, Sahil Shah, a software engineer.