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It's not the boss

sex-and-relationships Updated: May 15, 2008 14:33 IST

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People are increasingly spending larger parts of their life at office. We work insane hours in high stress environments. There is a certain rush of energy that comes with this type of work, but that soon fades into a sort of mental exhaustion and in some cases, even depression.

It's the easiest thing to blame your boss for the bad environment but it takes more than just a job to find the right balance. <b1>

If you are blessed with a work environment that is free from stress, anxiety, frustration, and general discord, you can stop reading now. For the rest, there are simple steps you can take to diversify your life and reduce the dissatisfaction of your job, day in and day out.

Limit those hours:
For those of you who have some level of control over your work schedule, one of the best things you can do is to start limiting your hours at work.

Start by shaving 15-30 minutes off the day's end, or come in later. Use this extra time to do one of the things listed in the next few points.

Another way to limit you hours is by not wasting as much time at work. I know many people who hang around at the workplace imagining they are relieving workday stress.

But, at the end of the day, you are still at work longer than you need to be. Instead of the extralong chat with the co-work er about how miserable your work environment is, use that time to finish off a project and go home earlier.

Make the distinction:
The less you waste time at work, the less stress you will take home. Don't take work home with you unless you absolutely need to.

Try not to even think about work once you've left. I know this can be difficult, but with practice, it will become second nature and your refreshed mind will thank you. One way to take your mind off of work is, of course, to meditate.

Take up a hobby:
It's very important to have a hobby outside of work.

Whatever your hobby may be, make sure it's something you enjoy completely. It should be something that takes your mind off of work and is affiliate worries.

The first step is come up with a list of the things that interest you. Whether it's golf, trekking, swimming, pottery or volunteering - anything that makes you feel sat isfied and content.

There is only so much free time in the day though, so you need to pick a few hobbies that you can realistically devote time to.

The last thing you want to do is create extra stress by spreading yourself too thin with things you like. You need to keep enjoying these hobbies.

Take mini holidays:
Most of us love grand plans for holidays a month of family time at an exotic destination. But this happens once a year or even less frequently. Getting long leave or coordinating with everyone can be tiresome, frustrating and nothing like what a holiday should be.

Practise the art of short holidays. Take a Friday and/or Monday off combining with a weekend. Make it a long weekend for some time out.

By going for these shorter vacations, you give yourself regular doses of stress relief and relaxation which will help you stay energised and refreshed. And you will blame your boss or your job less.

Change the outlook:
All these pointers are great, but won't help if you think everyone except you is responsible for your misery. It's important that you change your mindset about work. Feeling better about work is possible but loving your work takes effort.

In order to truly be at peace with your job, you need to change how you think and feel about it.