Love defies age bar
When it comes to matters of the heart, age seems to be just a number for many men and women. Now, a growing number of Indian men and women are giving importance to instant chemistry and compatibility rather than age.sex and relationships Updated: Jan 06, 2013 01:22 IST
When it comes to matters of the heart, age seems to be just a number for many men and women. Now, a growing number of Indian men and women are giving importance to instant chemistry and compatibility rather than age.
Finding love, finally Madhu Singh, 35, and Arjun Joshi, 26, tied the knot after almost three years of courtship. “We were dating casually, no-strings attached, but things changed when our bond deepend and we started valuing each other,” says Madhu. Despite a strong familial resistance, they are now happily married. “It is very difficult to find someone who connects with you nowadays and I did not want to let go once I found someone right for me,” says Arjun.
Psychologist Pulkit Sharma agrees: “The society now encourages people to examine a person as an individual rather than judge him by his age. Relationships are more about mutual understanding and compatibility and not factors such as age. ”
Understanding your partner
Apart from the emotional connection, understanding your partner is very important. “Relationships with a large age gap can be successful if the couple has the maturity to accept each other’s perspective,” says Sharma.
It could be challenging for the couple if they are in different stages of life vis-a-vis career, biological clock and other interests that supposedly change with age, but if the bond is strong, they can hold on to the relationship forever.
“There is obviously something special that brings two people together. Be it physical attraction, common interests, companionship, sex or all of the above and more; if it’s brought the couple so far that they’re more than platonic friends, age difference shouldn’t matter,” says relationship therapist Praney Anand. “Like every couple, this situation has its own set of challenges. You can cross the bridge when you get there, don’t assume it’s not going to work because that’s what you’ve heard from friends,” he adds.
(With inputs from IANS)