No means no: Cyrus Broacha urges men to learn to accept rejection

Need relationship advice? Is she not returning your calls or are you yet to ask her out? Fret not, popular TV anchor, comedian and thespian Cyrus Broacha turns love guru to help you with his ready wit, humour and some solid perspective on love, relationships and everything in between.

Need relationship advice? Is she not returning your calls or are you yet to ask her out? Fret not, Popular TV anchor, comedian and thespian Cyrus Broacha turns love guru to help you with his ready wit, rumour and some solid perspective on love, relationships and everything in between.

Do not fear, Cyrus Broacha’s here.

I love a guy from my class. He is always depressed because of family pressure. Once, he expressed his feelings, but said he wasn’t ready to be in a relationship. I even said I wanted to be his partner. He has mood swings, and sometimes, he behaves weirdly and ignores me. I’ve compromised on many things just to be with him. He has changed after we started talking and spending time together. But I’m worried about his mood swings. Should I continue like this or wait till he changes?

—CV

CV, Emperor Nero of Rome was very similar. Serious mega mood swings. Once completely drunk he bumped into his own marble statue in his palace courtyard. And he had all 16 guards in the compound executed (obviously he had to do a lot of the executing himself as he ran out of guards). You must tackle his weird personality immediately. He doesn’t respect you enough if he can sway up and down like this. Stop compromising and start confronting him. Personality is like body odour. If not dealt with, the stink gets worse. Be strong, be firm, tie his shoelaces together if you have to. But don’t let him dictate terms. That’s not a relationship. That’s punishment.

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Recently, I started liking a girl. But she avoids me and talks to another guy. I got frustrated because of her behaviour and yelled at her. Now, I am very jealous and can’t even sleep or concentrate because she talks to this guy. Should I forget her or do something about the boy?

—Confused

To say you are mad would be too impolite. I’d rather ask you if you’ve lost your mind. Please understand if the girl doesn’t like you and likes another boy, you can’t take action against the boy. Obviously, she’ll avoid you. I’d avoid you and you’re not even romantically interested in me! Yes, forget her. We, men, must learn to accept rejection. It’s the same feeling you get when your pant doesn’t fit your waist anymore. Have you ever tried to drive a car with your pants at your ankles? She doesn’t like you. Your yelling didn’t help either. She likes the other guy. Deal with it and move on. ..Oh, and pull your pants up for God’s sake.

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I had feelings for a girl in my college. I couldn’t propose to her. Now, she told me that she is in a relationship with a friend, who confirmed this. What should I do?

—D Boy

D Boy, have you been reading too much Harry Porter? I think you are mistaking me for Professor Dumbledore (the Richard Harris version, please). In spite of my penchant for wearing conical hats at soirees and job interviews alike, let me confirm that I can’t wave a magic wand and make her fall for you. Besides, in modern India, if one brandishes a magic wand in public, people may get frightened. Even Baba Ramdev doesn’t do that. You missed your deadline. Now you need to wait and watch. Stay in the shadows and be her friend. If you can bear it, let her relationship play out. In a little while you’ll know how strong it is.

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