Not love but other drugs: Why some couples can't have 'sober' sex

  • IANS, Sydney
  • Updated: Sep 23, 2014 14:17 IST

Most Australian couples avoid sex unless they are on alcohol or drugs to get the kick, reveal experts. According to sex therapist Jacqueline Hellyer, there has been a rise in the number of couples who have never had "sober" sex.

"It is not unusual for me to meet couples who only ever have sex in substance-induced states," she told

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The substance-induced sex is not just limited to young adults.

"I also hear from housewives who need a couple of wines at dinner to get in the mood," Hellyer added.

Couples who begin a relationship drinking alcohol to become aroused are likely to continue that pattern in their relationship. Many people find it difficult to move from substance-induced casual sex to a relationship.

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A recent survey of young adults in Australia also found that 92% of people who had had casual sex in the past six months had used alcohol or drugs.

"Do not let social lubricants lead to sexual dysfunction," experts advise.

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