What's the first turn off at a first date?
From mulling over exes, over-dressing and being thrifty, to dreary BO— it seems like we have all been a part of or at least been on a horrible first date. We asked people in the city, the things that immediately turn them off on that all-important meet cute.sex and relationships Updated: Feb 02, 2014 17:07 IST
From mulling over exes, over-dressing and being thrifty, to dreary BO— it seems like we have all been a part of or at least been on a ­horrible first date. We asked people in the city, the things that immediately turn them off on that all-important meet cute.
Many a first dates have been ruined with different opinions men and women harbour about paying the bill at the end of the date. For city-based lawyer Saumya Sharma, 24, bill-politics can make or break the situation. "Both parties should offer to pay, and really mean it — doesn't matter who actually ends up bearing the brunt, but the offer should still stand. Nothing puts me off more than someone shying away from going dutch," she says.
Not only moolah-wise, it seems that a first date can also easily be affected by the stench of­ ­nervousness.
Ask Arshia Chaudhary, 25, an architect, what turns her off on the first date, and pat comes the reply, "I can tolerate anything, except body odour and bad breath. It's a first date, you'd expect a guy to put in more effort! Nothing can be more ­disappointing."
On the other side of the ­spectrum, musician Dhruv Visvanath, 22, reveals how for him, ex-talk is an immediate, first date buzz kill. "I hate it when my date starts talking about her exes. Why would I be interested in how her past relationships failed, that too on our very first date? I also hate it when girls can't take a genuine compliment. Modesty sometimes goes amiss!"
When we asked ­fashion blogger and stylist Aanchal Sukhija about her own first date rule, she underlined the power of dressing up. "For me, being groomed makes a big difference. Showy and desperate is a turn off. First dates should be made of classy attire. For men, attention to detail: a great pair of leather boots, a good watch and a big smile can never go wrong," she says.
Model Sonalika Sahay even suggests a way to ­master the look for a successful first ­impression. She says, "A woman should wear something she is comfortable in, but at the same time not too ­boring. No harm trying to spice up your look."
Designer Anupama Dayal solves the dressing up dilemma with one hot tip: "Look pretty over sexy, less is always more for the first date."