Much to the surprise of her friends, 23-year-old Prachi Nigam, after a gap of four years, cut her long hair to shoulder-length — to tell her ex-boyfriend, “You are no more in my life and I’ve got rid of what you loved most about me.” This is not just Nigam’s story, but most young women these days cut their hair after a break-up to announce their “break-free” image. But the drastic makeover can turn either
way — a head-turner or a complete drab. Some Hollywood celebrities too have changed their hairstyle — both for good and bad after their break-up.
While singer Miley Cyrus had a new hairdo and hair colour a few months after the breakup with Nick Jonas in 2007 and the change looked refreshing, Britney Spears at the same time went bald after her break-up with Kevin Federline in 2007, which did not enhance her looks one bit. “Generally, men like women with long hair, so if that is the case, after a break-up a change in hair style is a way of saying ‘I am no longer going to consider my hair that important as you wanted them to be. So, as you are off from my life, they are off too’,” says relationship expert Kamal Khurana.
However, it may be just the opposite — that a woman wants to get a makeover and look more confident, sexy and get over the break-up, hence she goes for a hair-cut. “Sometimes it is purely because one wants a change. A haircut that changes one’s look is refreshing,” says psychiatrist Sanjay Chugh. “Often when people go through break-ups, the self-esteem becomes vulnerable and you begin to question yourself — physical appearance, intelligence, smartness, social skills. A person may then reject or disapprove parts of herself and may want to do away with them by a change of appearance etc,” he adds.
So while some do it to prove a point to their exes, some do it as they feel that appearance doesn’t matter anymore. Hritu Kaneja, 27, went in for a bob-cut after her break-up. The style didn’t suit her face and added years to her appearance. According to Khurana, she was in a depressive mode and looking good didn’t matter any more. “See, it depends on person to person. In this case, the person is so depressed that she doesn’t want to come out of this failed relationship. Hence the feel-good factor has died somewhere and she is sulking,” says Chugh.
Though getting a hair-cut or a makeover is not the only thing a person goes in for. Many start living their lives in exactly an opposite of how they were earlier. After abiding by all those restrictions that were imposed while one was in a relationship — like no partying hard, avoiding short dresses and many more, a person rebels, and starts doing exactly what he or she was not told to do.