Hollywood actor Rachel McAdams recently shared in an interview that she is afraid of never finding love that will last forever. The 32-year-old actor admitted to being in awe of her parent’s relationship that’s still going strong.
Is true love elusive?
Blame it on the ever-multiplying number of relationships that crumble at the drop of a hat. Young people increasingly feel that finding true love that lasts a lifetime is a tough feat to achieve. Stanley George, 26, a front office executive says, “There’s nothing called love. It looks beautiful in novels and films, but you end up losing a part of yourself every time you get into a relationship and it collapses.”
Experts explain why youngsters get disillusioned with love. “Looking at the number of failed marriages around them, they stop believing in love and that’s not a healthy trend,” says psychiatrist Dr Avdesh Sharma. He add, “ With economic independence, women are assertive like never before. There’s been a role reversal. That leads to ego clashes and conflict of interests,” he says. Lawyer Zainab Jabri agrees. “You can’t expect a woman to come home and cook after a hard day at work. Also, women are quite opinionated now. Some men can’t digest such changes.” Another reason for breakups is the amount of time people spend at work. “When people spend 12-15 hours at work, you can’t rule flings that can break up marriages,” says Dr Sharma.Making a relationship last
So, how does one make a relationship last forever? Before you get into a relationship, ask yourself why you want to be with that person. If your reasons are ‘she is pretty’, or ‘he is rich and famous’, it can’t be a long term alliance. Also, be prepared to give the relationship your best, stand by your partner through crisis and let the relationship grow. After all, every relationship has its share of doubts and crisis