February 14, Valentine’s Day is a celebration of love, but love often doesn’t work out the way you expect it to. On this occasion, HT Café talks to some television celebrities about their experiences of love, relationships and dating, and how some events almost scared them away from the L word. Read on.
In college, my friend fixed me up on this disastrous date. Things were fine until I asked her ‘what do you do’, and that turned out to be my biggest mistake. She wouldn’t stop talking about herself, and later, things went downhill when she began talking about her ex. It got awkward and boring real quick. I was messaging my friend while nodding to what she was saying. I was quite exasperated by the end of it, and I still abuse him for that date.
I had a girlfriend in school, and during a Christmas carnival, we were supposed to meet her sister. I tried to look my best, so I wore this oversized denim jacket and combed my hair in a ‘cool’ style. When I met her sister, I realised that they were very awkward, as I had perhaps overdone in the styling. In my attempt to look good, I ended up looking awkward and dressing badly and making a fool of myself. Maybe I made her swear off love.
When I was in class 11, I was going home on my bicycle after tuition when a crazy senior from my school — a self-proclaimed lover — came up to me, wished me Happy Valentine’s Day and applied sindoor on my forehead. I can laugh about it today, but back then, I was horrified thinking he poured acid on me. I screamed so hard that he ran away.
In school, during recess, this admirer came up to me with a bunch of some 100 roses, and that shocked me. I told him I couldn’t accept them, but he was insistent. As we were on school grounds, I ran away from him, but he didn’t let up and ran after me. It was quite a sight, as all the other kids were laughing. Ultimately, I went into the girls’ loo, but he gave the bouquet to another girl and asked her to give it to me. I think I could have been more graceful in turning him down.
Years ago, I had befriended this guy over the internet. We would chat online, talk on the phone, and then after a year, we met. I was aghast to see him, as I thought he was a suave, gentlemanly kind of guy. But he had this rapper look, with tattoos, pierced ears, and he wore diamond studs, which I found odd. I kept staring at him and making fun of him. Maybe I was a horror to him, and he must have sworn off blind dates after meeting me.
Some common friends introduced me to this girl whom I dated. After a few meetings, I realised how clingy she was and how she wanted to be with me all the time. She would call and text a thousand times a day. I felt ridiculously suffocated, so I called it off. Even then, she didn’t let up and kept sending flowers, apologising, texting and calling.
During college, I took the hottest girl in that year out on a few dates and was thrilled when she told me how much she liked me. But we went for a movie once, and she was reading a text message and trying to hide it from me. I felt something was fishy and took her phone to read the message. To my horror, I found out she was already dating someone in her hometown. I was furious I was being cheated on. I simply dropped her home and never spoke to her again.
I was in a relationship that felt like the be-all and end-all of my life. But few months into it, I realised that my boyfriend’s flirtatious ways were scary. It wasn’t healthy for me to be constantly thinking how far he would take his flirtatious ways. I expressed my concerns about it, but they fell on deaf ears. Today, I am happy that relationship didn’t work out.