'Tiger Mom' tells Asians go easy on their kids
US "Tiger Mom" Amy Chua Thursday urged strict Asian parents to relax and give their children more freedom but also to avoid the "romanticised" Western focus on creativity over hard work.world Updated: Oct 14, 2011 00:15 IST
US "Tiger Mom" Amy Chua Thursday urged strict Asian parents to relax and give their children more freedom but also to avoid the "romanticised" Western focus on creativity over hard work.
The Chinese-American law professor at Yale University sparked international controversy this year with her book Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother, which detailed the strict parenting regime she put in place for her children and called this approach the key to success.
"I think Western parents give kids too much freedom, too much choice at a young age... Asian parents like in Korea have opposite problems, giving too little freedom, too little choice for our kids," Chua said in a speech at a Seoul forum.
She stressed that Asian parents often put too much focus on their children's academic excellence while failing to foster social skills and "emotional intelligence".
"As we head into the 21st century and global competition gets intense, simply emphasising hard work and memorising and long hours is not going to be enough," she said, urging a balance between the different parenting philosophies.
Chua criticised US parents and schools for deferring "too quickly to their young kids' choices", but at the same time called on Asian parents at the other extreme to let go once their kids become old enough.
"To me this type of parenting should be when kids are very young. I think it actually should start to end when they are around 11, 12, or 13," said Chua, adding she mistakenly "went too far with it" with her daughters. Chua earlier met with a hailstorm of criticism after excerpts of her book were published in the Wall Street Journal.
In the book, she allows nothing less than top school marks from her two daughters, no sleepovers or watching television, and makes them do mandatory piano or violin study.