Tisca Chopra thinks women who get sexually assaulted are just as much to blame, Twitter doesn’t
Tisca Chopra has said that women who join men in hotel rooms and don’t give a ‘flat out no’ are just as much to blame for their assault as their attackers.Updated: Oct 20, 2017 16:50 IST
A no means no? Not to Tisca Chopra it doesn’t.
The actor landed herself in the soup after penning her thoughts on sexual harassment for The Print. The actor wrote women who get assaulted by men are just as much to blame as their attackers.
The publication reached out to actors, film critics and other people from Bollywood to know their views on the currently trending #metoo movement on social media.
#Metoo was started as a reaction to 40 women (including several actors) in Hollywood who revealed they were sexually harassed by producer Harvey Weinstein. Women all over the world began sharing their own stories of harassment and abuse to bring to light the sheer number of people who have gone through it.
A tentative ‘no’, a polite ‘no’, a ‘no’ that means ‘maybe’ and worst of a ‘no’ that means ‘yes.. just push me more and I will relent’..? https://t.co/7mm4FZUBeT— Tisca Chopra (@tiscatime) October 18, 2017
While Swara Bhaskar, Kalki Koechlin asked for more conversations on sexual harassment, Tisca had a completely different stance on the matter. “I’m going to be very categorical when I say that women are just as much to blame, because they put themselves in those vulnerable positions. Why do these women go to hotel rooms? Do they not fear for their personal safety? Have they not heard of people’s reputations, and why do they engage with those men?,” she wrote.
“Being a woman, I would say that first of all, protect yourself. Don’t put yourself in that position. The more women start saying flat-out “no”s, the more these men will understand that this is not the way, this is not going to work,” she said. “What is happening in Hollywood is largely 30 years of somebody becoming a blatant predator. People, by and large, say “chance maaro, how can it hurt to ask”. Unless somebody says “no”, and the kind of “no” you say, and the manner in which you say it should convey that it is completely unacceptable to even ask this question,” she added.
She even advises women to not take short-cuts, “Don’t let your career hang in the balance. Work hard on your acting, take a little longer to build your career, don’t take any shortcuts,” she said.
Of course, Twitter is furious at her now. Some are calling out her idea of a ‘flat out no’ what could that really mean. “Oh my God! How dumb are you? A ‘no’ means no. Nothing else,” one said. “What the f***? No means No. Please do not Bollywoodise consent,” another wrote. Some even tagged her in explainer videos on consent and assault.
Check out a few tweets:
Pray, where is this 'safe' place?At the office?In cars? Inside homes?Y go anywhere at all since I fear for my safety?Assault cn happn anywhr— Ishmeet Nagpal (@IshmeetNagpal) October 18, 2017
No man has the right to touch a woman even if she's standing naked at 3am in the park or in the middle of the street. The only person at fault is the person who assaults. Simple.https://t.co/1SsMXq5LB1— Saniya Sayed (@Ssaniya25) October 20, 2017
Tisca Chopra started blaming victims instead. Maybe to stay in good books of filmmakers, hoping for a role atleast as supporting artiste https://t.co/6h9m47cF5Z— NoToSilence (@akdwaaz) October 17, 2017
It's never too late to speak up. Sexual assault and harrasment is not a matter to be taken lightly. Think before you speak, please.— MS (@Realsinham) October 17, 2017
Get ur facts right ..this kind of victim blaming is why they didnt come out earlier in such big numbers in the first place..— sreekala (@hypatia12) October 20, 2017
This is the mentality that allows people in power to continue behaving however they please. Put some responsibility where it belongs.— Gauri (@gauri_1993) October 20, 2017
Come on tisca, victim shaming really? thought u had some brain cells.— Venus (@venusforever) October 19, 2017
Whaaat? Saying 'NO' prevents sexual assault? If only every rape survivor knew!— Danny (@danny6393) October 19, 2017
Oh mannn, I really liked @tiscatime :/— Ish (@Ishy93) October 19, 2017
Guess it was my fault when I was 12, or 14, or every day since...in supermarkets and so on..
However, Tisca wasn’t the only one blaming the victims in The Print’s piece. Actor Bhairavi Goswami too criticised women for coming out with their stories after ‘10-30 years.’ “Are we going to deny the fact that that both men and women have consensual sexual relations to further their career, then scream ‘rape’ after 10 years? To defend women saying they were scared is preposterous. These aren’t uneducated tribal people from a tiny village off the grid. They maybe from smaller towns but now they live in Mumbai, party seven days a week, indulge in substance abuse, alcohol, and sex games, and the media says these poor innocent virgins were scared. Does the media understand the long-term ramifications of making a joke out of sexual harassment?”, she wrote.
Sigh. Here’s that explainer video on consent once again.
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First Published: Oct 20, 2017 16:50 IST