Woman, stop your man when he says perfect sex! You’ll go mad

Men who demand perfection in bed end up making women sexually dysfunctional, says a new study done at the University of Kent, Britain.

Here’s a word of caution for all couples! When men impose exacting standards on their partners in matters of sex, women tend to get sexually dysfunctional, according to a detailed study done at the University of Kent, Britain.

Partner-prescribed sexual perfectionism can lead to decrease in female sexual function regarding arousal, showed the findings published in the journal Archives of Sexual Behaviour.

The study led by professor Joachim Stoeber from the University of Kent also found that partner-prescribed sexual perfectionism contributed to negative self-image.

Perfectionism is defined as a “striving for flawlessness and the setting of exceedingly high standards for performance, accompanied by tendencies for overly critical self-evaluations and concerns about negative evaluations by others”.

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It is a common personality characteristic that may affect all domains of life. However, the longer term consequences of how it affects people’s sex life had previously not been explored.

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Those recruited to the study were told that the online survey was investigating whether “personal and interpersonal expectations and beliefs affect one’s sexuality and sexual function”.

Researchers differentiated between four forms of sexual perfectionism -- self-oriented, partner-oriented, partner-prescribed and socially prescribed.

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They found that partner-prescribed sexual perfectionism contributed to woman’s negative sexual self-concept and female sexual dysfunction.

They further found that partner-prescribed sexual perfectionism predicted decreases in sexual esteem and increases in sexual anxiety, suggesting that it is a psychological factor that may contribute to sexual problems in woman.