Bareilly Ki Barfi actor Seema Pahwa to women on Mother’s Day: ‘If you ever get a chance to become a mother, avail it’
Remember Kriti Sanon’s mother in Bareilly Ki Barfi, desperate to get her married to any suitable bachelor in sight or Bhumi Pednekar’s mother in Shubh Mangal Saavdhan whose sex education advice involved Ali Baba and Chaalis Chor? Meet Seema Pahwa, the onscreen mother we almost think as of our own for her witty one-liners and her relatable mommy attitude. On Mother’s Day, one of the favourite moms of Bollywood spoke to Hindustan Times about being a mother on and off screen. Excerpts:
You played Kriti Sanon’s mother in Bareilly Ki Barfi. How different it was from your real personality?
My daughter is yet to grow up that I have to look around in search of suitable boys for her. I live in Mumbai and my daughter has the freedom to chose her own life partner. In Bareilly Ki Barfi, I played a mom from Uttar Pradesh who was looking for a suitor for her daughter. The situation was different.
You left the audience in splits with your style of sex education in films like Dum Laga Ke Haisha and Shubh Mangal Saavdhan.
Every mother has to impart sex education to her kids, especially her daughter. Since we had to do it in a comic way in Shubh Mangal Saavdhan, the manner of advice was such that it could make anyone laugh. The mother got puzzled about how she can explain it to her daughter.
Every mother tries to give necessary education to her kids as they grow up. I also started talking to my kids at the right time.
You have developed the image of a very cool mom due to your roles in recent films. Are you a cool mom in real life as well?
I think I am a cool mom in real life. I love them a lot and seldom get angry.
What is the major difference between you bringing up your kids and your upbringing by your mother?
The times have changed, earlier the mothers used to be very strict. We used to live in Delhi and were not allowed to go out late in the evening. We had to reach home by 8 - 8:30 pm and were scolded for being late. The circumstances have changed, its a new world now.
I can’t do that with my daughter what my mother used to do with me because the society has changed, the situations have changed. We give that much liberty to our kids that they can chose what they want to do. Our parents used to keep a tab on everything that we used to do, where we are going, when we will come home. We were asked to take our brother along. Now we think that our girls are independent and are capable of ensuring their own safety.
What is the major difference in portrayal of a mother on screen in films of the 70s, 80s and now.
Films are a reflection of the change in society. Since society has evolved and women and kids are more independent these days, the moms have also changed accordingly in films. There was once an era of tragedy moms. Children used to approach their mother only for a serious issue. Now women are independent and have different though process. Its not necessary that we follow one set pattern.
A mother is a very beautiful creation and whenever one talks about his or her mom, they talk about her with a lot of happiness. A mother can be a funny character and children often have fun in the company of their moms. I believe a mom should be seen on screen as such and I have played similar characters on screen.
Which is the favourite mother’s character you have played so far?
My character in Ankhon Dekhi is my favourite. I also loved playing Bhumi’s mother in Dum Laga Ke Haisha and was also appreciated for my role in Bareilly Ki Barfi.
As a mother, will you like to give an advice to the younger generation?
My only advice to the kids who run away from their responsibilities is that they should not be afraid of taking up responsibilities. A girl has a god-gifted opportunity to become a mother. If they ever get a chance to become a mother, they should avail it. The way they fulfil other responsibilities, they can fulfil the responsibility of a child as well.
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