For the last few months, I’ve been experiencing pain after sex. Why?

Post coital headache, that is headache immediately following sexual encounter is a known phenomenon. It is usually believed to be of non-organic origin ...

I want to reduce my weight. I was told that masturbation helps. I tried, but to no avail. What’s wrong?
Check your source for authenticity. If your assumption was correct, there would be no obesity in this world. Try eating a balanced diet and exercise regularly. Do a check on chronic diseases. Masturbation is an absolutely safe way for the release of one’s pent up energy. It is free and there is no risk for any sickness. It is a pointer to normal sexual development. The only effect of masturbation is releasing the semen. You can continue with the habit for as long as you like.

For the last few months, I’ve been experiencing pain after sex. Why?
Post coital headache, that is headache immediately following sexual encounter is a known phenomenon. It is usually believed to be of non-organic origin and may be self-resolving in majority of cases. In a few cases, it may require symptomatic treatment with a painkiller. Underlying psychological conflicts do play a major role in post coital headaches. Are you feeling guilty about the act? Is there fear of STD or pregnancy? Try to discard misconceptions about sex.

I am 38 and a father of two sons. My wife is 36. We have normal sex, but sometimes it becomes difficult to penetrate her, even though I get a good erection. Forceful penetration results only in failure and pain. Help us.
Vaginismus is the medical term used for tightening of the muscles around the vagina that makes penetration painful. There are various causes for the condition. It may be due to psychological or organic causes. Injury, infections, tumours etc can lead to Vaginismus. Fear of penetration, dislike for the partner, misconcepts about sex are some of the psychological causes. Better relaxation and manual stimulation may aid you both. A healthy sexual life involves pleasure for both the partners. The pain during penetration can ruin the sexual life.

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