A Muslim woman, Umm Muladhat, has written a book for practising Muslim women about what kind of sexual activities are okay for them to indulge in and how to cherish an enjoyable sex life. The idea of writing the book - The Muslimah Sex Manual: A Halal Guide to Mind Blowing Sex - came after Umm met a newly-married Muslim woman who wanted to know how to fix her sex life. Umm Muladhat is an alias used by the author, as she expected a repercussion with regards to the contents of her book.
While speaking to the Guardian, Umm said she felt “compelled to write the book after she discovered women were entering into a lifelong commitment with little knowledge about sex other than snippets gleaned from the back of guides to marriage, with an emphasis on what was forbidden, rather than what was allowed, and with little from the perspective of women.”
However, what pushed her into finally penning down the book was an unpleasant experience that took place with a friend of hers. Muladhat wrote on her website, “She knew the mechanics. Insert penis into vagina. Climax. Withdraw. But she didn’t know how to make her husband yearn for her in bed. She didn’t know what he liked. She didn’t even know what she liked! They had begun eagerly but after a few weeks, realized that neither of them was truly enjoying having sex with each other.” After Muladhat gave her a few helpful sex tips, the friend told her that she should write a book on the subject. As expected, there has been heavy criticism, but Muladhat insists that she believes that one should have “sex only with spouse”.
{{/usCountry}}However, what pushed her into finally penning down the book was an unpleasant experience that took place with a friend of hers. Muladhat wrote on her website, “She knew the mechanics. Insert penis into vagina. Climax. Withdraw. But she didn’t know how to make her husband yearn for her in bed. She didn’t know what he liked. She didn’t even know what she liked! They had begun eagerly but after a few weeks, realized that neither of them was truly enjoying having sex with each other.” After Muladhat gave her a few helpful sex tips, the friend told her that she should write a book on the subject. As expected, there has been heavy criticism, but Muladhat insists that she believes that one should have “sex only with spouse”.
{{/usCountry}}Muladhat told the Observer, “I put an emphasis on having sex only with your spouse, but having the full range of sexual experiences with that spouse. Islamically, there’s an emphasis on enjoying physical relationships within the context of marriage, not just for procreation. It is the wife’s right that her husband satisfy her sexually.” If her debut book is successful she has plans to write another book on the same subject.
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