Mother driving you up the wall? Significant other throwing tantrums? Best friend acting peculiar? Can’t figure out whether it’s love or lust? Don’t panic, your problem is not beyond a solution. Just ask Raveena Tandon, she’ll give you sympathetic, sane advice. You can mail her ataskraveena@hindustantimes.com.
I am a 27-year-old working woman. I’m in love with someone who also loves me a lot (at least that’s what he says). We have been seeing each other for about a year now. But my problem is that he blows hot and cold. Sometimes he’s very affectionate and loving, and at other times he seems very distant and withdrawn. If I ask him what’s wrong, he gets irritated. I don’t know what to make of his behaviour. I can’t just put it down to moodiness. After all, I don’t behave like that with him. And I’m sure he knows I feel hurt when he’s cold and aloof. What should I do?
You know everyone’s different when it comes to feelings and emotions. No two people can be the same. Maybe you’re much warmer whereas he’s a little distant and can’t open up so easily. I would say that since you’ve been going around for only a year, it’s too early to form opinions, after all, he does say that he loves you, right? Give it some time and maybe you’ll understand each other better. Maybe you’ll also learn to understand his moods and not be disappointed by his reactions.
I am a 31-year-old man. I’m married and have a lovely wife and two children. Recently, I went out of town for a conference and met this beautiful woman who was also participating in the conference. We had a brief fling. Now I’m back home, but I’m consumed with guilt. This is the first time I’ve cheated on my wife. Should I just tell her everything and ask for forgiveness?
Hmm... this is a tricky situation! But even so, I think that if you’ve realised your mistake and do not want to worsen matters, the best thing would be to not bring it up. Sometimes a little lie can save a marriage. It’s obvious that you love your family so don’t go overboard with the confession bug. Of course, if you feel that there’s a chance of it happening again and if there’s a pattern to this, then you definitely need to have a good talk with your partner and re-examine your marriage.
I’m a 29-year-old working girl. I like my job and have a wide circle of friends. I lead a busy, active, full life. But my parents are after me to get married. I haven’t found anyone I want to get married to as yet, and they want
me to go in for an arranged marriage. I’m not so keen on that. But they’re really applying a lot of pressure on me. I have nothing against marriage, but I want to get married only when I fall in love with someone. What should I do?
You should not be closed to the idea of an arranged marriage. It’s not such a bad idea! In fact, if you agree to meet some boys your parents choose for you, who knows, you may even end up falling in love. Life is very unpredictable. Most of my friends have had arranged marriages and they’re very happy.
