Emotional pain and suffering during this period is so great that it is as if a part of your body has been torn away from you. The grief that has to be borne can be alleviated somewhat through normal meditation, but there is a heart practice that I recommend which is truly effective. In this desperate state this practice becomes a source of transformation and continuing strength.
Go out into a park, or near a water body, like a lake or a waterfall, if possible. Water has a purging effect on negative emotions. Invoke the sky, infinitely present in front of you. Rest in the feeling of infinity of this ever present sky. This will help to open up your heart, and make you realize how small and closed-in you had made yourself, compared to what you actually are.
In the centre of the sky, visualize the All-Seeing Eye of Divinity, the beautiful Ankh as picturised in Egyptian paintings. This is the Eye that watches silently over all emotions. Gazing into this Eye, visualize tremendous rays of golden light streaming towards your heart. Imagine this light as nectar, filling your heart completely, and transforming all suffering into bliss.
Now open your heart, with the silent touch of these golden rays, as if you were unlocking all the pent up emotions, and transforming them through this purifying light. Invoke the love, compassion, power and blessing of this Eye, to heal your grief, and turn your hurt feelings into loving charity towards those who have hurt you. This healing spring of light purifies and protects you from all further harm.
{{/usCountry}}Now open your heart, with the silent touch of these golden rays, as if you were unlocking all the pent up emotions, and transforming them through this purifying light. Invoke the love, compassion, power and blessing of this Eye, to heal your grief, and turn your hurt feelings into loving charity towards those who have hurt you. This healing spring of light purifies and protects you from all further harm.
{{/usCountry}}Now imagine that the liquid golden Light from the Eye is overflowing, so that even the shape of the eye becomes invisible. Your body is totally drenched, and is soaking in the powers of Divine Love and Forgiveness. You expand with joy, and become the All Seeing Eye of Divinity. Your problem now seems so small and so far away from your reality!
All hate, anger, frustration and grief falls away, dissolving itself in the power of this Light!
Chant the holy mantra of the Buddhists, OM AH HUM VAJRA GURU PADMA SIDDHI HUM, to fortify your emotions even further, and make this power a permanent part of your Being.
Now send this all-powerful healing light to the ones who have hurt you most, with loving forgiveness, and charity. This will break the bond of negativity between you forever.
You may even feel mysteriously grateful to this suffering and to those who caused it, for giving you the opportunity to become stronger in working through it, and using the lessons learnt to become more compassionate and forgiving to the rest of the world!
Healing a broken heart: Part I