“Look at what she’s wearing! I can see her breasts popping out.” This sort of conversation between two women — passing nasty remarks about a third — is not uncommon. Many people genuinely believe women take great pleasure in finding faults with other women.
Is this the reason why so many women prefer men as buddies — like Sarah Jessica Parker in Sex And The City, who always confides in her gay best friend played by Willie Garson? Garson told imdb.com that he shared a similar rapport with Parker in real life: “We’ve been dear friends for 20 years and she does like to talk. Obviously I don’t ask her about guys — I’m not gay! But she advises me on girls.”
In the controversial book Women’s Inhumanity To Women, Phyllis Chesler explains why men are easier to deal with: “In school, girls are taught that girls are capable of being mean, they gossip and slander. They isolate other women.” Remember, it was a woman, Linda Tripp, who spilled the beans on Monica Lewinsky’s affair with Bill Clinton. Monica had trusted Linda and confided in her!
In Trilogy Of Women, Gloria D. Tillis Jones says: “Women have it hard enough without being down on each other, suspicious, jealous and backstabbing… if women are plagued with problems, whom can they trust?”
That’s the reason, V.J. Anusha says, she has more male friends: “You can trust them. Women are more likely to betray your trust.” B4U V.J. Gauhar Khan feels men are more patient and understanding. “Plus they aren’t competing with you over looks, career or clothes. Women are more prone to jealousy. Female friends have often backstabbed me,” she says.
{{/usCountry}}That’s the reason, V.J. Anusha says, she has more male friends: “You can trust them. Women are more likely to betray your trust.” B4U V.J. Gauhar Khan feels men are more patient and understanding. “Plus they aren’t competing with you over looks, career or clothes. Women are more prone to jealousy. Female friends have often backstabbed me,” she says.
{{/usCountry}}Smriti Z. Irrani married her best friend’s husband Zubin who, she claims, was her friend. It was his easy-going attitude that she found attractive. “It’s easier to strike friendship with a man, the comfort level is higher,” she affirms.
It’s often said that women are always checking out other women and constantly tend to find faults in them. Schopenheur said: “Men by nature are indifferent to one another, but women are by nature enemies.”
Many women will agree. They will tell you that men do make better soulmates than women. There could, of course, be another view.