Did you grow up in a home full of arguments and tension: Here's how it can affect you

From sacrificing our emotions to overworking, here are a few effects of being brought up in a home full of tension.

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By Tapatrisha Das, Delhi
Published on May 31, 2024 06:03 pm IST 5 Photos
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When we grow up in a dysfunctional home, the nervous system gets into the fight or flight mode as a survival strategy. This further makes us anxious and stressed all the time. "Living with multiple (chronic) trauma can become our normal which makes it hard to identify why we are struggling today. For many people it comes as a surprise that the root cause lies in their upbringing and the work needs to start there. Time often doesn’t heal wounds when it comes to trauma," wrote Therapist Caroline Middelsdorf.(Unsplash)
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Being brought up in a home full of tension makes us sacrifice our own emotions and needs and instead prioritise the happiness of others to maintain peace at home. (Shutterstock)
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The absence of clear rules about personal space and respecting boundaries in home further makes us confused about developing our own boundaries in relationships. (Unsplash)

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We often develop the fixer mentality - w mentality – we become the peacemaker and think that it is our job to fix the problems for others. (Unsplash)
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When we carry the burden of being brought up in a dysfunctional home, we badly want to succeed to feel stable. This makes us overwork and overdeliver. (Unsplash)

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Tapatrisha is Content Producer with Hindustan Times. She covers stories related to health, relationships, and fashion.

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