Art of saying sorry

Minutes before writing this, I was trying hard to coin a reasonable definition of a wise man. Thoughts rushed into my mind, and they were all quite attractive ones, but in their extremities.

Minutes before writing this, I was trying hard to coin a reasonable definition of a wise man. Thoughts rushed into my mind, and they were all quite attractive ones, but in their extremities.
But I had to choose one anyway, and the closest to the ground because I had to write this piece. Here it is: A wise man is one who is wise enough to feel sorry and say sorry when he commits an act that hurts others.

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The art of saying sorry is perhaps the most difficult art. It is because of the lack of the ability to apologise that most of the problems balloon out into proportions beyond one’s control.
We want peace, we want love and amity; but do we work hard and examine the factors that make it possible?

Gary Chapman and Jennifer Thomas perhaps had this in mind when they turned their years of research findings on problems faced by individuals and families into The Five Languages of Apology.

The first step in the art of healing begins with the use of ‘sorry’. As they say, ‘sorry’ is a magical word that can turn a foe into a friend.

And if one can muster the art of using Chapman's five languages of apology, one is sure to find a way to live happily, and let others too.

Sure steps to bliss. But the problem is that we consider apologising a sign of weakness and demeaning of the self. We always love to point the finger at the ‘other’, and keep ourselves in ignorance. We lose a chance to rise above petty thinking.

Saying sorry is a sign of greatness and one who seeks forgiveness absolves himself of his “crimes.” I have seen people refusing to say sorry to people they have hurt, but praying for God’s forgiveness. Can there be a greater act of foolishness? God punishes such people all the more!