Ashamed of sex with a committed man!
1. About six months ago, I began a sexual relationship with a man who told me he was unhappy with his girlfriend of four years and decided to leave her. They had a very serious and committed relationship. He soon realized that he had made a mistake and returned to being with her. So of course we stopped seeing each other out of respect for her and did not talk either. A few weeks after his return, he called me and from the past few months we have not had an innocent phone based friendship that his girl does not know about. I don't know why I can't just stop talking with him! I feel so bad, but it gets worse. Last night I was talking to him and he said he missed me and wanted to see me, so I met up with him and we had sex. I knew it was wrong, but did not feel bad at the time. Now today I feel beyond horrible for my actions and I even have a feeling that she knows. I have never met her, but I have totally betrayed another woman and that is against all of my morals. Even if she doesn't know and never finds out, the guilt that I feel will eat me up. I know that I need to stop this right here and now, but knowing and doing is different. I am not in love with him and I know I will never be with him but I have in fact become very attached to this man, my friend. I will miss our conversations and relationship so much. I do know the difference between right and wrong. But I do not know how to move on and do the RIGHT thing. If their relationship ends because of this I will never forgive myself! Guide me.
'I can't touch my girl'
2. I am living with a girl who wants to marry me. She has had sexual relations with other guys in the past. Now she does not want to get physical with me. Just before meeting me, she became religiously inclined and took pledge in front of her Guru to have sex only for kids. But I have regular sex urge. She wants to marry me but her candid confession about past and not allowing me to touch her also gives immense pressure to our relationship. I don't know what to do. Please advice me.
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Where is my life partner?
1. I am an NRI living in Europe. I went six times to Mumbai and Delhi to look for a life-partner but it seems that girls there already have boyfriends and those who don't have are not willing to marry an NRI. I am kind-hearted, well mannered, good-looking, educated, settled but yet what do I do wrong that I am unable to find a life partner?
Reply From Dr. Prem Lata Chawla: It seems Indian girls have matured, become wiser, self-sufficient and self-supporting as they are now taking decisions for themselves. Still there are many Indian parents looking for NRI grooms. You only have to advertise in newspapers or put your bio-data on the Internet. India lives beyond Delhi and Mumbai as well.
Have I become impotent?
2. I am 29-years-old and my problem is that I've been masturbating since I was 13 and as I was young, I did not take it as part of nature and now I do not enjoy it anymore. My family is trying to get me married. Please advice me how can this problem be solved?
Reply From Dr. Prem Lata Chawla: Masturbation in itself does not lead to impotency, premature ejaculation or change in size of penis. You should see a doctor for the proper diagnosis of the cause of the impotency and its management.
First Published: Oct 16, 2006 13:50 IST